u/PinkIsMyOxygen

below is a convo i just had with my dad.

For context im 17 pomo, still living at home with my parents. And today they took my siblings on a family day out, and locked me out the house (im not allowed to be left home alone for some reason??) My dad spent the whole car ride, bragging about how amazing this family day out was, and how much fun they had.

The recording goes:

Me "well why couldnt i come with you guys today?"

Him "you already know why"

"really?"

"yeah"

"well why dont you tell me?"

"well, it goes against everything we agree with"

"what? Me coming with you on a day out?"

"Its not that. Its where do you stand? We dont know where you stand"

"whats that gotta do with-"

"Youre interacting with the family!"

"Mhm?"

"Yeah, i wouldnt interact with someone thats apostate. I wouldnt interact with someone thats a lesbian. So we, dont know where you are. Do you get what im saying?"

* silence *

Him "where you are is ALIEN to us. And how youve got there, i dont get it. I dont understand. You know the scriptures, you know the truth. You were brought up with it. You know the standards. You know what he did to sodom and gomorrah. So... We're living in the time period where its the promised land. To mess up now is just..."

* silence *

Him "you dont get it? Why dont you get it? I mean, its not convenient for you, and its not- it doesnt seem nice-"

Me "doesnt seem nice?"

Him "no, what we're doing. Leaving you out."

"Leaving me out. Locking me out."

"But put yourself in a parents position. Youve got someone thats going in the complete opposite direction to the way theyve been brought up."

"AND?"

"Why is that? are you that... UNGRATEFUL?"

"Ungrateful? I made my own decision, PAPA."

"Well youve gotta live by that. WE DONT WANT THAT."

my parents have made a rule that im not allowed to be left home alone. Why? Idk. But they view me as dangerous because i dont go to meetings anymore.

(im pomo, but living in my parents house until they can legally kick me out at 18)

So today i was in my pajamas, chilling in my room because i dont have work until the evening. And my mum bursts in and says "you have 20 minutes before you have to leave the house, because we're going out"

She then proceeded to give me chores to do, emptying the bin and cleaning the bathroom etc.

So i did them. Now i only have 5 mins left, and im in my pjs.

So i hurry, and start getting changed. As im doing that my mum starts yelling "hurry up!! Youre gonna make us late!"

After a few mins, she starts to threaten me, saying "if you dont hurry up, i wont come back until later, then youll be late for work" (because my work uniform would be at home and i'd be locked out of the house)

So i rush, and start packing my work uniform. i say "its okay, i'll just take my uniform with me"

At this point, she literally starts STOMPING, like a fricking toddler. Shes growling and saying "NO you wont pack your uniform!! Get out the house NOW, we've got to go"

I said "yes i will pack my uniform" because i knew if i didnt, she'd just use it to control me

I told her to "calm down" and "stop acting like a child"

So i go downstairs to put my shoes on, and sure enough shes thrown my shoes outside. She pushes me out the house, locks the door, and before she storms off she says "you made us late now. But ofc you did that on purpose didnt you?"

I want to be angry, but honestly its just ridiculous.

they want me out of the house from 8 30am EVERY day. They say im a danger to my siblings, who are homeschooled which means they spend most of their time at home. So im not allowed to be there.

(im 17, pomo but still living at home)

i work at mcdonalds, so i get a lot of evenings and weekend shifts. I really like it there, and im good at my job. I've made a lot of new friends there too.

i recently switched to full time, because my parents are kicking me out as soon as im 18.

But apprently, thats not good enough. Because some of my shifts are 2pm until 9pm. Meaning i could be at home in the morning.

My dad got very angry, and said i have to find a new job thats 9 to 5, 5 days a week. Because i cant be at home in the day.

They expect me to work 5 days a week, and spend my weekends alone not going anywhere or doing anything fun. Avoiding my siblings every day, and saving up as much money as possible so i wont be homeless when they kick me out in less than a year.

How is this fair???