I am new to Vietnam and have started dating here.
I find it very difficult to get to know most Vietnamese women. Whenever I show interest and ask questions about their life, they often respond, "This seems like an interrogation" and will sometimes just ghost me.
So I thought, fine, I won't show as much interest in asking questions anymore. But when I do this, either the conversation just completely dies, or they will say, "It seems like you're not very interested in me."
So it seems like I can't win either way. Do they want you to ask questions or not? It seems like there's an extremely fine line, and it's hard to know where that line sits because every woman is different.
I've dated women in other parts of Asia, such as Thailand and the Philippines, and I've never encountered this before. Most women are actually just happy that you're showing interest by asking them questions.
Can anyone explain why this is happening in Vietnam, and how I can avoid it? It seems like I can't win either way.