u/Particular-Leader538

I’m scheduled for PanOptix Pro. I’m 54 and read that younger patients tend to have larger pupils that might negatively affect outcomes. I called and asked if my pupils were measured during first visit (under multiple light conditions) to see if I might be more at risk. She (scheduler) said their clinic (Clarus in WA State) doesn’t require those types of eye measurements to qualify for premium lenses. She also said she has never heard of pupil size being a problem.

Am I being too influenced by the negative stories on social media, especially here on Reddit? I did read that PanOptix Pro is one of the lenses that is not pupil size dependent so if you have a large pupil, you might even be better off going with PanOptix Pro.

This is hard. It feels almost impossible for the average person like myself to make a well informed and responsible decision.

We work 💯 remote and when I logged into work Monday morning I found out my immediate supervisor and her boss (Director) traveled out of state together for the entire week for a conference. They seem to have notified everyone else in our Division but me. Am I out of line for emailing my supervisor about this and asking if she would let me know in advance in the future?

This isn’t the first time she’s done this, but she’s not out very often and it’s usually just a day or two. This lack of communication frustrates me though, and I’d like to know when she’s going to be out for an extended period in advance so that I am prepared. Since it’s happened more than once, I felt like it’s reasonable for me to email her and politely request this communication in the future.

She replied with a very defensive email and basically made it look like my fault because we agreed to cancel our weekly meeting due to me being really busy. She said she informed the other two team members during their 1:1 meetings and since I didn’t have time to meet, that’s why she didn’t tell me.

First of all, she usually initiates the offer to cancel those weekly meetings more often than I request it. And if I request it I always preface it as only if you don’t have anything to discuss.

Second of all, there’s no reason why she can’t shoot me an email or Webex message to let me know. She remembered to physically cancel Monday’s weekly meeting on the calendar but gave no reason. It kinda feels deliberate.

But now I’m all in my head about it and feel like I did something inappropriate and I’m going to get in trouble for what my supervisor obviously perceives as being confrontational. I know our Director will always back her up no matter what. I feel like this should not be an offense that leads to a write up or discipline or something, but when people in power feel challenged or threatened, they sometimes assert their authority and want to make sure you know who is in charge.

Even if they don’t mention it again, I am paranoid that they are angry and will now look for any reason to target me in the future, even though I’ve worked there 25 years and have a very strong work ethic and have never been in trouble.