To the men: Would you be fine with a gay son as long as he was closeted, masculine, and promised to marry a woman?
So to preface this, I promise its not a shitpost and Im genuinely curious.
Some background: I've known I was gay for a while, but I was raised in a loving and masculine household and my father is masculine, so are my older brothers. However, for whatever reason, I've been attracted to guys, and it's been weighing in on me for a while because I don't want to be associated with that crowd, even though that may sound homophobic, and there are a multitude of reasons why I would never come out of the closet. Im not promiscuous, a virgin, and I always listen to whatever my father has to say. I did Varsity Lax in HS, was the valedictorian of my HS, and am currently attending a great college doing engineering.
However I still feel as though I failed my dad for mentally having these thoughts, even though I promised him to marry eventually, etc. I feel like I failed my father because I love him and don't want him to be dissapointed. He's quite homophobic (i guess, understandably) but has suspected for a while. I just hear a lot on how gay dudes are groomed, or pedos, or how no one wants one, how they have stds, less acceptance than lesbians, etc. and I don't want to be associated with that sort of environment.
Any other dudes having these thoughts?