how to set healthy boundries as a (maybe former) people pleaser?
hello fellow people,
i used to have low self love (since primary school probably) and therefore trying to make people around me happy and taking in their feelings and the like.
now that im kinda at peace with myself and having a kind of constant feeling of love or acceptance for myself and others i started to get a problem with my bladder, probably because i did start to set boundries where before i just absorbed anything negative from others and showering them with love. that made them kind of dependent on me. at least thats what i believe.
am i going into the other extreme too much or is the problem elsewhere?
i work in retail at the moment as a supervisor where im kinda dependent on my coworkers, but at the same time im supposed to delegate work so that i can manage my own workload in a healthy way.
i also keep having skin problems, which point to boundries.
i do a semi consistent mindfulness meditation practice.
any pointers? and thanks for your time.
i may not awnser much today, but im interested in insightful responses.