u/OtakuDaiVeion

So I’m 17 and I was just wondering are polygamy and polyamory sins? I mean I would think they are same as with sex outside of marriage, Homosexuality etc but I see many people try to justify it because David, Solomon etc did it, I’m not really well informed in verse as much as the next person, but I thought God didn’t support the relationship but he used them to do his will, like how God can use people’s sins to bring about righteousness sometime,hope that’s not heretical.

But tell me if I wrong, I mean spiritually it feels super wrong, but for some people their flesh is attracted to it, and people say it’s in our nature to have as many partners as possible which I don’t believe in.

I’m 17M and I’ve been on here a while and many on you have been getting me very good advice, including changing my perspective of how I should view sinners. You guys told me you can be gay etc and still be a Christian but it’s not who you are even if you struggle with it as your trying to change, your not your sin your just a Child of God.

I see a lot of people on TikTok etc, say you can’t be a racist, homophobic, or sexist as a Christian and a year ago I would’ve agreed, but now I know people really struggle with sins even if they know their bad, including myself with lust, hate and envy. I feel like people push away others by doing that making them feel like if they struggle with a certain sin they can’t be forgiven, saying you can’t be born racist or hateful, and I believe you can be born with hate, because we’re born into sin, no one ever taught me to hate but myself….

So I want people to stop telling people they can’t be this type of sinner and be a Christian when the whole point is trying to abandon that part of yourself while growing closer to Christ, even if you struggle really bad with it.

So you can have sinner friends, who cheat, hate and every other thing you can think off, but hold them accountable with love and not condemnation instead pointing them to Christ and his love, because we’re no better than them….

I’m 17M and every time I really like a girl I think I unconsciously put them on a pedestal. I message a lot because I worry about how clingy I seem, if my words could seem so type of way, and sometimes when I fall asleep and wake up I just have so much guilt about what I said. It doesn’t even have to be something weird I said, I make sure not to do that and if I do I apologize a lot, which sometimes annoys people. I feel disgusted with the way I feel about them and the way they could care less. I got called corny and cringe, which I am for using my account as a way to express my emotions since I didn’t want to bother someone else. I mean I’ll happily help others with their problems but I don’t feel like I deserve help with mine.

I think sometimes I say the wrong thing while trying to be kind? I’ll see something in someone like them making brain rot jokes etc and call it cringe but cool, and they majorly take it the wrong way which is my fault.

Overall I feel like the lack of affection I get from people I hold affection for, leads me to become kinda dependent on that attention, maybe that’s why I’m stuck on this girl who doesn’t like me back but says we can stay friends. I try to be nonchalant and stay cool like she does only sending one word responses, but that’s just not me, I can’t just do someone like that I guess

I feel weird with how much emotion and energy I put into trying to say the right things to her, to get even a reaction through texts and it doesn’t work. She doesn’t respond to certain stuff which makes me feel weird about what I said, and leading me wanting to delete them. But I can’t because she calls me out on it and says she doesn’t like it. We stopped talking and all, and I did the same thing that ended things before unintentionally I think I’m not that emotionally intelligent with girls I like, everyone else I talk to I do it right with, even girls I find pretty but don’t like such as 2 girls who I met in 3rd grade and have known for years, it’s so easy to talk to them and I don’t ever feel like I’m not being me.

I just wanted to get that out and see if it’s bad and if so how I change it.