I think my ex is deleting my evidence for custody court so I won’t get my kid back/leave his house
Hi, I’m looking for defensive guidance on how to preserve and identify evidence of suspected unauthorized access to my phone and accounts so I can make a police report. I am not asking you to contact anyone, access anything for me, or hack anything. I only want help figuring out what evidence to collect, how to preserve it correctly, what to document, and what to avoid doing so I do not destroy evidence.
I suspect my ex had physical access to my iPhone while I was asleep and knew my passcode. I also personally caught him on my phone while I was sleeping just the other day. After that, I started finding suspicious account and device activity.
What I found:
- My Apple account showed an unfamiliar “TapMedia PRO SignIn App” under Sign in with Apple, with a creation date of April 10, 2026.
- My Google account showed multiple iPhone sessions/devices I do not recognize.
- When changing my Google password, Google warned that I would remain signed in on my current device and another Apple iPhone I do not recognize.
- My iPhone call history showed a call marked “Answered on other device,” even though I do not own or use any other Apple devices.
- At the same time, when I check devices under Apple settings, it is not showing any other device I recognize there.
- I also received an “iMessage is Signed Out” notification affecting my phone number.
- My child told me his father removed the SIM card from his phone. The explanation given to my child was that it was needed for Wi-Fi/update reasons, which does not sound technically normal to me.
- My child’s phone had active cell service when the SIM was removed.
- My child’s phone and some related accounts had been tied to one of my email accounts.
- My TextNow account later appeared reactivated, but messages were deleted.
- I also have concerns that my ex and my child’s father may have been sharing information despite denying that they were in contact, because each made statements suggesting knowledge the other would not normally have.
- One example is that my ex brought up a very specific scenario about someone using TextNow to make messages appear to come from someone else, asked my opinion on whether that was possible, and would not identify who he was supposedly talking about. After I referenced that to my child’s father, he went silent, and around that same time my TextNow account was reactivated but the messages were gone.
- I have also noticed behavior suggesting the two men may have had knowledge of events or information they should not have known unless they were communicating.
What I need help with:
What evidence should I preserve right now?
What exact screenshots, logs, account pages, device settings, carrier records, app/account records, and metadata should I collect?
How do I preserve this in a way that is useful for a police report or later forensic review?
What should I avoid doing so I do not destroy evidence?
How can I tell the difference between normal account behavior and signs of unauthorized access?
Is there a way to document this in a clean timeline that would be useful to law enforcement?
I can provide a written timeline of dates, notifications, suspicious account activity, device/account changes, statements made by the people involved, and what each screen showed. Since I can only send text here, I can describe each screenshot and event in detail.
I’m trying to be careful not to overstate anything. I’m looking for defensive guidance on evidence preservation, incident documentation, and how to identify useful indicators of suspected unauthorized access, account tampering, SIM-related interference, and deletion or manipulation of communications.