I 29F story with my husband 32m I am venting
I am extremely depressed. I don't know where I should start.
let me start with the current.. Family trip.
since my father recently passed away with cancer we took a trip to a near by hill station just to refresh our minds. we meaning, me, my husband our 3 year old, mom and 10 of our cousins and family.
during this trip I had explicitly told my husband not to drink much as I have a lot of trauma associated with him drinking. although he doesn't admit, his behaviour towards me slightly changes when he drinks and that triggers me a lot. so I did not want him to drink much.
now he starting to drink on our way to vacation, yes my cousins also drink and I don't care about them drinking, which is what he argues with.
he doesn't understand how traumatized I am, or how my family would judge. ours was a love marriage and my family never really accepted him, they always told me that he might not be a good fit for you.
and that life with him will not bring me happiness. while traveling he drank and I got upset told him not to, he asked me if I should decide what he should and shouldn't do and few things here and there got me upset.
finally we reached the spot, I requested him to not drink any more and I kept away from him for a few hrs. after a point my cousins and he where all drinking and chatting and I sat beside him. during which my cousin asked him why dint you have her bring a coat to where, as it's cold. he responded like "why doesn't she have sense, is she a child" he says he teased me, honestly he has been mean and disrespectful to me in front of many people before.
my cousin did not like it and she understood I got very upset by the comment so she told him not to give up on your wife like that, she always speaks so highly of you and to not do that.
all of this accumulated and I felt very overwhelmed and upset and I started crying, which resulted in my cousins trying to make me understand what made me so upset and he ended up telling that my sister telling him that made all the commition.
please advise me on what could have been done differently.