Possible issue in the works.
Let me start out by saying that this particular co worker is very good at his job & we work together on a small team daily and have to interact to get our job done. Overall things are good. We both realize that the other is a good worker and smart person and we joke around but the thing is that we cannot communicate. I always think he is being mean and he thinks the same about me. I will mute his msgs sometimes bc he says stuff like “you never listen to anything so I’m just wasting my time” or “everything you say is bullshit”. I’ve never said anything close to that. What I really hate is how he responds when I ask a question or when I try to help him or make a mistake. Example- I made a mistake and when asking for help in a situation that required a real time response as in multiple ppl were waiting on this to be done, he ask me a million dumb questions, says that he already told me this last week so go read my notes, how can you not remember, go look at X general website with no direction and then 20 min of getting frustrated later he finally tells me the simple, 2 second fix. So all that time wasted for many people and then ruining my day with the anxiety when he could have just told me. He says that he quizzes me bc he thinks it’s the only way I learn. Yesterday was so nice bc he started doing this “look at this page” and I knew he really meant it look at the mistake you made because of the context of the conversation and so here I am looking through this Excel document for a solid five minutes until a third coworker. He was also in this team’s chat finally points out that he was the one who made that mistake… It was his work after that he says nothing when the whole time while I’m trying to figure out what the mistake is he’s acting like I’m an idiot for not checking XYZ. That was something that he messed up anyway I know I’m not giving you any details but the more of the story is that I feel like this is very condescending immature behavior. He’s also stated that he won’t even bring things up to me directly. He only likes to talk about them in meetings with my boss because he thinks that’s the only way I listen. I really hate this and I have said multiple times to just come to me and maybe I am not the best listener, but I do not do any of these things to him ever always go out of my way to try to help and always take the brunt of his mess ups for example not fighting back when management finds mistakes like that one he found I just take the blame even though it may or may not have been my fault. Should I say anything I don’t want to cause a scene that’s even worse when right now it’s really just a little bit annoying any thoughts?