I feel like my sister stole my life
My older sister (whom I love very dearly) is both someone I admire and deeply resent. She’s six years older than me and, for as long as I can remember, has been my best friend.
Half the time I completely forget that she’s actually my half sister. She’s our Mother’s daughter from a previous relationship. Her Dad is a deadbeat whose in jail.
My sister not having a Dad means that my Dad, effectively, became hers. She’s been Daddy’s little girl for all my life.
It has burned inside of me, since I’ve really understood that my sister has another Dad, how many experiences that should have been “mine” as the eldest daughter (for my Dad) were taken over as hers.
The one that kills me though?
My Dad’s family has traditions that are passed down in the family, several that are eldest daughter to eldest daughter…guess who our (paternal) grandma is passing these traditions down to?
My grandma has a necklace whose jewel has been passed from eldest daughter to eldest daughter for (as far as we can date) 245 years…it’s very obvious that she will not be passing it down to me.
I’m angry and resentful.
I understand no one wants to make her feel like she’s not family or any less loved but these are all things that should have been mine. ESPECIALLY the traditions.
Might be about to ruin my life and cause some awkward feelings but I’m planning on asking my grandma for the necklace within the next few weeks (I’ll be visiting her.) I’m trying to think of a tactful way to go about it but I just cannot watch another thing that should have been mine be passed right over me without, at least, fighting for it.