u/Nice_Luck_7433

I understand that life is often difficult & we all need to boost our ego. Self love is important & healthy, as long as you do it in private & zip up after.

But, when it comes to things like morality, a lot of people have issues with lgbt folks “because my preacher told me the Bible said it’s a sin to not reproduce & I never question my preacher.” Or “because my mom said it’s a sin to not be straight & I never question my mom.”

I often get to the point where people should realize there is no moral good/bad to being lgbt, it’s equally as moral as being a fan of chocolate ice-cream over vanilla ice-cream. But after that point, it seems like they’re not even trying to convince me of anything about morality, they’re just trying to defend their self-esteem & protect their perceived identity as the moral superior to lgbt people. It’s often like they’re thinking “lgbt stuff must be sinful, otherwise I’m not as holy as I thought it was by avoiding all that love-making with people of the same gender.” Or “lgbt stuff must be sinful, because otherwise I just missed out on a lot of positive experiences.”

People condemning lgbt folks are humble-bragging about being straight/holy. They’re just getting off, and don’t even recognize what they’re doing.

I’m not open to changing my view that lgbt stuff (between consenting adults) is morally neutral. That’s just obvious to me at this point. I am trying to see if there’s any good counter-arguments against my idea that homophobia is usually just cope for self-esteem & fomo.

Edit: I’ve been convinced that the fomo is less common than I thought.

Also, I noticed that a lot of people are saying that they find kissing gross wether it’s gay or straight. That’s not homophobia, that’s something else, maybe we can call it kissphobia.

And also I wanted to correct the title and say “cope for a self-esteem boost” rather than “low self-esteem” because a homophobe might just be feeding an already bloated ego, they don’t necessarily have to start with a low self-esteem.