u/New-Mycologist-4172

My brother died of a herion overdose. That much is fact. But the circumstances surrounding it were...odd. As far as we knew, he didn't use herion or if he did, very occasionally. He was booked to start rehab the next day for meth. He had been in and out of psychosis for the prvious 2 weeks because of meth - but was on the anti-psychotics when he died and was stableisssshhhhhhh. He was with a guy he described as a friend. I don't know the guy, the'd been druggy friends for a few months as my brother got hooked on the meth. My brother had a high paying IT job but things went downhill rapidly and the last 5 weeks he was unemployed and just on it...the final 2 he lived with my parents and seemed to not be doing any drugs. That night, before the rehab, he went to the friends. We assume a big last hurrarh. He died there...OK. That all makes senes...

Except then the friend told someone, who contacted us that it was 'assisted suicide'. My brother had previously grabbed a handful of something and tried to OD when in the psychosis and the police came to his house...it was a week before he'd died.

I talked with the friend only once and it was awful, he also proceeded to steal my brothers car after (had been left at hishouse, obviously) and took his keys and phone and whatever personal documents. He's completely unreliable and seems like a pretty messed up dude.

I still have his phone number. Someitmes I just want to text him 'did you kill him, did he want to die?'but I'm afraid he's unhinged, and he knows where my parents live...(not me, I'm far away) and the antics of the car and having kept the keys and papers always freaked me out.

What should I do? I sometimes have nightmares where my brother basically tells me it was suicide. My gut instinct tells me it was something closer to 'who cares', and it seems the guy had also had a big hit of herion that night too judging my police statements, just that my brother was also on heaps of depressant meds.

Would you message?

My 8 year old has been recommended an expander because one of the incisor teeth is not able to come down properly for a lack of space because the tooth next to it isn't out yet...

I have a very high suspicion of orthodontists as I was in the years that all my friends were getting braces because of cross bits and over bites and slight crowding, and all the orthodontists were on holiday in bali (im from australia).

I can see that the tooth doesn't have sapce, sure. BUT it was happening on the other side, and when the tooth next to it came out - it has gone into place fine. so my question is - what is the expander for and can we wait? 8 years old seems young, and we were told he'd have to wear it for 22 hours a day, and would impact his speech.

I just don't know how to weight the costs and benefits as I feel the dentist is being pushy without making it clear why we're doing it.

Is it just to have straight teeth? ie. Look better?! or is there a 'medical' reason? and once the tooth next to it comes out...won't the tooth come down natrually?!

To add to my paranoia, I have naturally very straight teeth and 0 fillings at 40, but they are VERY close together as in its painful to floss so I don't much, and when they looked at mine they said oh you have a slight crossbite and oh they're tooooooooooo close together oh dear oh dear how terrible. What?! I basically have perfect teeth and they need work??? Made me think they just wanted money

Who to trust? My gut says don't do it, but maybe its the eye watering price too...