u/MurderedDiana

▲ 23 r/NEET

Being a NEET is so isolating and I want out

I (24F) have been a NEET for the past 6 months and I already feel like im rotting away. I was in the military for 5 years and have not had a job since I got out. I had NO idea how terrible the job market is right now. I live with my husband (28M) and he pays for pretty much all our expenses. He says he supports me getting a job, but keeps pressing that it's "not necessary" over and over again. It honestly kind of feels like he doesn't actually want me to work, but he knows it would sound weird if he actually said that. So he just KEEPS on telling me how "unnecessary" me getting a job would be, and telling me that its "okay to relax". To the point where I know if I really did go out and find work, I think he would actually be disappointed in me. I cant help but feel like he wants me trapped in this apartment, waiting on him all day. My husband is in the military, and we just moved across the country for his new duty location. I know absolutely no one here. He is ONLY person that I know in this whole state. I have ZERO friends and ZERO connections other than him. I am so beyond lonely and bored and I cant stand being in this apartment all day. We don't have kids or anything, so once the daily household chores are done I have absolutely nothing to do. And on top of that... he's been border line making fun of me for being a NEET. He will come home from work and be like "how was being a NEET today?" and he'll even call me "his NEET" with a huge smile plastered on his face, like its some kind of pet name. He doesn’t know that it hurts my feelings, he just thinks its funny, and I’m too embarrassed to tell him that it hurts. he gets to go out to work every day and make new friends and connections in his unit while I stay here and do our laundry. Long story short, I hate being a NEET and my husband doesn't want me to get a job because I think he likes me being so dependent on him. Both financially and socially. I've never felt so lonely and isolated and something needs to change. But this job market is abysmal and not even FAST FOOD places are hiring near me. I literally just want some kind of social circle, even if its just through work. Sorry for the yap sesh but just needed to get this out. I always just read things and never actually post but I’m feeling extra alone these days

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u/MurderedDiana — 8 hours ago