
Welcoming practise
When to use it: Whenever you feel "unseated" by negative emotions (like anger or fear), physical pain, or even ego-driven highs (like the pride of winning an argument).
Step 1: Focus and Sink In
Instead of getting lost in the story of why you are upset, move your attention entirely into your physical body.
- Scan your body: Notice where the emotion lives. Is your jaw tight? Is your breathing shallow? Is your chest heavy?
- Feel the raw sensation: Do not analyze, psychoanalyze, or justify the feeling. Simply sit with the raw physical sensation of the emotion.
Step 2: Welcome
Counterintuitively, do not push the feeling away. Pushing it away gives it more energy. Instead, embrace it to create inner spaciousness.
- Name it lightly: Identify the sensation (not the situation).
- Welcome it: Gently say to yourself:
- "Welcome anger."
- "Welcome fear."
- "Welcome pain."
- Allow the feeling to be there without resistance. This physically shifts your nervous system from constriction to spaciousness.
Step 3: Let Go
This is the final phase (the "coda"). Do not rush to this step until you have fully welcomed the sensation. Use this specific four-step litany to release the core subconscious programs driving the reaction.
Repeat the following affirmations precisely:
- "I let go my desire for security and survival."
- "I let go my desire for power and control."
- "I let go my desire for esteem and affection."
- "I let go my desire to change the situation."
💡 A Crucial Reminder for the Practice: The goal of this practice is not to fix the situation or to forcefully make yourself happy. The goal is to realize that even if this discomfort were to last forever, your core consciousness would be just fine. By letting go of the need to change the situation, you build true equanimity.
Video Link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_bClyhR2ZPc