u/Mr-Nobody188

Welcoming practise

Welcoming practise

When to use it: Whenever you feel "unseated" by negative emotions (like anger or fear), physical pain, or even ego-driven highs (like the pride of winning an argument).

Step 1: Focus and Sink In

Instead of getting lost in the story of why you are upset, move your attention entirely into your physical body.

  • Scan your body: Notice where the emotion lives. Is your jaw tight? Is your breathing shallow? Is your chest heavy?
  • Feel the raw sensation: Do not analyze, psychoanalyze, or justify the feeling. Simply sit with the raw physical sensation of the emotion.

Step 2: Welcome

Counterintuitively, do not push the feeling away. Pushing it away gives it more energy. Instead, embrace it to create inner spaciousness.

  • Name it lightly: Identify the sensation (not the situation).
  • Welcome it: Gently say to yourself:
    • "Welcome anger."
    • "Welcome fear."
    • "Welcome pain."
  • Allow the feeling to be there without resistance. This physically shifts your nervous system from constriction to spaciousness.

Step 3: Let Go

This is the final phase (the "coda"). Do not rush to this step until you have fully welcomed the sensation. Use this specific four-step litany to release the core subconscious programs driving the reaction.

Repeat the following affirmations precisely:

  • "I let go my desire for security and survival."
  • "I let go my desire for power and control."
  • "I let go my desire for esteem and affection."
  • "I let go my desire to change the situation."

💡 A Crucial Reminder for the Practice: The goal of this practice is not to fix the situation or to forcefully make yourself happy. The goal is to realize that even if this discomfort were to last forever, your core consciousness would be just fine. By letting go of the need to change the situation, you build true equanimity.

Video Link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_bClyhR2ZPc

u/Mr-Nobody188 — 5 days ago

My understanding of TSM so far

Disclaimer:
This is a personal interpretation of the method and might differ from other interpretations available online.

What is letting go?
Letting go is like looking away.
Example: There is an artistic bottle on my desk. I am just constantly looking at it because it's interesting to look at. A friend enters my room and says "Enough admiring dude, could you just let it go?" And you let the bottle be there and take your attention to something else.

How is this letting go beneficial to us?
When you apply this letting go phenomena to your emotions and wants, you experience a deep sense of peace, something that you have been looking for in the external world but never found it there. If you keep doing it, you will realize that it's not just an experience of peace but you are and always have been that peace.

How to let go?

  1. Identify who you are, in this moment? Eg: Right now, I am someone who is frustrated by the work load of my office.
  2. Shift your entire focus from the story (work load of office) to the feeling (frustration)
  3. Remind yourself that it's just a feeling you are experiencing, separate from you. Eg: Few hours ago I was the same me, but that frustration feeling wasn't there.
  4. Could you let it go? (Are you capable of letting it go?)
  5. Would you let it go if you could? (Do you like that feeling or would you rather let it go?)
  6. When would you let it go if you would?

Don't rush to answer, let it come from a place of knowing. Also remember both yes and no are acceptable answers. Just make sure it's a firm yes or firm no. If your answer is "maybe" or "in between", then you are in apathy. Just move up to courageousness and say out loud YES or NO. After answering each question, your job is done. You are not responsible for releasing.

Common trap:
Don't pick up the emotion or want that is already separate from you. Pick up only that feeling which you consider yourself to be as.
Eg: You are with a friend and he said something that made you angry. But you don't want to be angry because it might ruin your friendship. So you try to release the anger, but that's a trap. Here, you are not someone who is angry, you are actually someone who wants to save his friendship or control that anger. So here, the correct thing to release is "wanting to save that friendship" or "wanting to control the anger" and not the anger.

Tips for releasing wants:

  1. Wants are easier to release and more efficient as compared to emotions.
  2. Identify which of the 3 core wants it is by going deeper. Don't just guess.
  3. Wants are subtler than thoughts and emotions. They are like the finest form of a thought, very vague.
  4. Don't use the questions when releasing wants. Just become aware of the want and look at it for 1-2 seconds (keep your mind still and focus). It'll release on it's own.
  5. If it doesn't releases, you have a deeper want. So look for that.

What is stuckness?
It's the stuck feeling you get when you're wanting to release and it's not happening.

Why do we get stuck?
When you have released enough to know that it works and has the ability to make you happy, you start wanting to release more than you want imperturbablity. You start looking at releasing like a drug that can make you blissful. But because Want = Lack, the more you want to release the harder it gets.

How to get unstuck?
Let go of wanting to release. But if you are releasing for a long time, you know that there is nothing better than it. You lack the motivation to let go of the "wanting to release".

Where can i get the motivation to let go of the "wanting to release"?
You must want imperturbability more than you want anything else. Don't confuse wanting imperturbability with wanting to release. It will become clear when you ask yourself this question:

  1. Imagine never ever being able to release again, you'll be stuck for the rest of your life, but you'll be blissfully happy. What do you choose? Ready to barter your releasing for happiness?

Important pointer:
The one that's wanting to release and become free, can never release or get free. Because that character is not you. You are already free. Suffering is the result of believing that you are the character. The character along with the world comes and goes within you.

Additional tip:
Let the body be your anchor. Don't let your mind distract you with thoughts (fake feelings) to release on, instead of the acutally feeling in the body.

Methods given by Hale:

  1. Decide to drop it (dropping the pen)
  2. Welcoming (open arms gesture, settling with yourself)
  3. Zoom into the feeling (notice space between atoms)
  4. Notice both polarities at once (like-dislike)
  5. Triple welcoming (notice the feeling, any resistance to it, and the sense of "I")

Methods given by Larry:

  1. Open up a door in your feeling centre and let the energy pass through
  2. Let go of dissaproving of yourself and give yourself approval
  3. Say "Yes" to the feeling instead of saying "No"
  4. Tell the ego "I am bigger than you. I don't need you anymore"
  5. All feelings wants to leave. Ask it, and give it permission to leave
  6. Let go of wanting to figure things out

Others methods that can lead to a release:

  1. EFT tapping
  2. The work (Byron Katie)
  3. Ho'oponopono
  4. 478 breathing

Very helpful tip when stuck:
Get in touch with your thoughts and stay in touch. What ever goes through your mind, negative, positive, nuetral, just experience it. Don't try to change or release it. Just stay in touch with your thoughts. Do it the whole time, all day. If you are doing something, don't plan or think how to do it. If you are in this state of mind everything will turn out to be the way you wanted it to be. - A commentator on Sedona method fb group

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