Pregnancy and Bipolar
My mid-twenties daughter is bipolar and has diagnosed autism. Mix in some ptsd from being late-diagnosed autistic. She has had little control over her reactions (self harm, punching walls) since a young age and has been hospitalized several times for her own safety. She can’t keep a job and often has suicidal ideations. She’s been on various cocktails over the years and we finally found a combo that was mostly working (nothing will ever “cure” her depression). She has been unemployed for several months and has had zero luck finding work due to her lack of job history and skills gaps.
Cue the failed IUD. Around 8 weeks ago she realized she was pregnant and against my advice, decided to keep the pregnancy. She had to quit the mood stabilizers that were providing the most benefit.
She’s become more volatile and hard to be around since then. She’s now 3 months pregnant and we have an appt with perinatal psych coming up but I worry there isn’t much they can do.
Not only are the moods/outbursts hard on her loved ones but I know it’s worse on her and bad for the baby.
I know from deep experience there is no reasoning with her so I try not to problem solve every issue that sets her off.
I’m at a loss. I’m worried this will end her and I worry that my “support” is mostly enabling her. I need to find a new therapist and work on boundaries but I don’t know what that looks like with her. There’s nothing I won’t do. And I worry that’s a problem too.