Dad, 76, Stage 4(?) and no one seems to be able to help
My dad has been hospitalized 4 times in 8 months. Once for a pneumonia and fluid retention starting in his ankles, and the others for pneumonia.
He is on oxygen 24/7 and has been since October 2025.
His PCP brushes off referrals to specialists, and even the social worker at the hospital today said that palliative care didnt sound like a good fit.
I'm going to go in to his next PCP appointment and get pushy about referrals (he has said he wants to work with specialists), but other than that I feel like everyone is saying "oh well, too bad."
He's showing memory issues and some confusion, and although he is independent otherwise I feel like that may change soon. He also isnt forthcoming about how bad his oxygen levels are, and I just found out when paramedics were at our house that he had been getting readings as low as 47%!
No one has said "he is nearing end of life", and he may not be, but it doesn't look good and it's like no one is willing to help.
I'm his sole caregiver, and we can't get in home care (like an HCA) because his insurance doesnt cover, he doesnt qualify for medicaid (which is so confusing to me) and we can't afford out of pocket.
Literally any suggestions would be so helpful. I'm scared for my dad, and don't want him to suffer more because I'm incompetent and can't seem to locate good care for him.