TTC advice needed
TW: LC
Hi everyone, I have joined this group in December 2025 when I had to tfmr my dear son at 15 weeks for t21 and multiple structural anomalies, hydrops and AVSD. It’s been almost half a year and for that whole time I was heavily grieving the loss of my baby.
This would have been my second child, my LC is 8. My husband and I were unsure if we should try again, but yesterday he finally told me that he wanted to try for another child one more time. I am 37, he is 39. We both want our son to have a sibling very much.
I know that there are no guarantees in pregnancy but I was wondering if you could offer your wisdom in terms of preparing mentally and physically for a pregnancy after tfmr. For context I am already in therapy, I take folic acid, coq10, vit D, DHA. I am currently on a diet to lose weight for the next 2 months, I exercise daily. Is there anything you would add to this list?
Is there any way to mentally separate the tfmr experience from a new pregnancy? I know that I could still be very unlucky but right now it seems like almost 100% truth in my mind that I WILL get another horrible experience. I would like to just maybe be able to think that having a healthy baby is also a possibility. Both of my pregnancies were conceived on the first try and I never had miscarriages before. We also have clear karyotypes, t21 was most likely a fluke.
Any kind words of encouragement would help in this scary uncertain time that a lot of us know too well.
Thank you so so much!