What more can I do?
5 weeks into it with twin girls. Wife is having a really rough go of it. I do most (90%) of the feeding, changing, cleaning. She pumps and washes bottles and does the odd diaper change. We keep getting in arguments about how we aren't a team, and that I'm not supportive enough. I'm exhausted, I dont know what more I can do. I've offered to cook and even just done it. Nothing I do seems to help and I feel like I'm literally doing everything. I offer to watch the girls while they're sleeping so she can shower, sleep, whatever...And its just met with threats and insults. Asking for her to help just gets dismissed as me picking on her...Is it normal for women a month after giving birth to literally spend all hours in bed, only getting up to grab snacks, go to the bathroom or pump. Getting yelled at, and belittled because I'm poor (the source of all her stress depending on how shes feeling) is really starting to take its toll emotionally.