u/Metallover27

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I have cried more in the last week than I had for the last year

I'm going through a really difficult time right now. I honestly don't even know for sure if it's my PMDD symptoms giving me hell or if it's that and a shit ton of stress. I take a continuous bc pill so I'm not too sure when it's PMDD symptoms or just me crashing out from the stress of it all. Thank fucking god I don't bleed every month.

My husband was in a car wreck 5 months ago and got a concussion. There were sooooo many things to do after the wreck including dealing with everything with insurance my car was totaled so we're down to just 1 car and we're delivery drivers full time and need 2 cars. He wasn't able to drive for 2 months so I had to do all of the driving for 2 whole months didn't have any time off along with dealing with everything to do with the wreck aftermath, everything to do with his physical and mental health due to the injuries from the wreck, researching the right type of doctors and scheduling the many appointments he needed to do, the extra stress, the extra work we both had to do to be able to continue to pay our bills.

I had surgery about 2 weeks after the wreck and he couldn't even be there for me before during or after. Thankfully my mom volunteered to be there for me and she did great. The surgery felt like it was on the back burner the whole time. He was too confused to be supportive. Everything fell on me to get it done. All the regular things in life and the stuff from the wreck and legal team etc. Every single thing I had to do or it wouldn't get done.

I was already in burn out probably for years before the wreck even happened and I was able to hold it together for a few months. He did get better physically and was able to drive again after 2 months. That's when all hell broke loose. I pretty much completely shut down. I didn't have the capacity to take care of all of things, scheduling all of the appts for both of us, making sure the bills got paid, keeping the house clean and picked up, making sure he was doing okay, making sure my needs were being met (which they hadn't been for a while before that), trying to keep everything going and running smoothly. I couldn't do it anymore. I am already chronically ill. I have been diagnosed with POTS and ADHD and PMDD and migraines, and high blood pressure and I also highly suspect that I have Autism, HEDS, and MCAS. I also deal with PDA and RSD thanks to ADHD. That's a doozy.

One of the most concerning symptoms of his concussion is his inability to feel emotions. So while I was running around like a chicken with its head cut off trying to make sure everything is as easy as possible for him and the least amount of stress for him as possible all the while burning myself the fuck out he was having to work a lot. Thankfully once he could drive again on his own I didn't need to be with him constantly.

I pretty much became a hermit. He told me so many times he doesn't feel anything anymore about music or movies or nature and also me. He's isn't feeling any emotions of love or intimacy towards me at all. That really hurts considering we've been together for 12 years and all the shit I had to do for him to be able to recover as well as he could. I understand he can't help it but it still hurts a lot. He can't even cry and it makes me feel guilty to cry when he can't even do that.

Every month even though I'm on continuous bc pills my pmdd time makes me feel worthless, like I can't do anything right, like I've regressed so many years, I take 10 steps forward that exhaust me completely and I get pushed 20 steps back. Nothing is ever good enough. When I do try to work I do my best which is laughable at this point. I make like 15% of what he can in a day and I feel so fucking ashamed and guilty for even trying to make my own $ when my ability is so much less than his. I don't want to be a burden. I want to be a productive member of society and make my own $ and be able to pay my own bills.

I've told him so many times that I'm burnt out and I need to get unburned out to be able to recover and I send him things to try to explain what I mean by being burned out and I don't even know if he reads it or watches it but it's like he still doesn't understand why I can't do anything why I feel stuck in a rut depressed feeling like my self worth is just in the trash. He's asking me when I won't be burnt out anymore when I'll be able to go back to consistently working. There really is no discernable timeline that I can figure out for when I won't be burnt out anymore. I do everything for both of us except for most of the out of the house work. I try every week to go out and work and it pushes me right back to the starting point. Everything is so tense every day. He needs a break from working so much. He needs to be able to heal and working so many days straight is not helping him to be able to heal.

I am not someone that cries a lot. I can count on one hand before this wreck business how many times I've cried in the past 3 years. This week alone I've cried maybe 5 times and today probably 3 times because I just feel so helpless. I feel like we're both missing each other and not being able to be there for each other emotionally is killing our marriage. This whole thing has caused so much unneeded stress on us and our relationship. I don't know what else we can do at this point. I don't have any energy or motivation to do anything more than what I've been doing.

Hello. My (34F) husband (41M) got a concussion from a car wreck 5 months ago. He had the usual multitude of symptoms right after. We didn't realize he had a concussion until about a week later. Our little podunk ER Dr was very rude about his weight and only focusing on that and not the wreck he had just been in when we went to the ER after the wreck for him to get checked out. He was not diagnosed with a closed head injury/concussion that day but a week later at a much better and larger ER close by.

He had the "normal" concussion symptoms such as sensitivity to light sound and motion, difficulty sleeping, very confused easily, dizziness, balance issues, light headed, nauseous, frequent headaches, no energy/exhausted, short term and long term memory problems, attention and concentration issues, brain fog and groggy, trouble thinking clearly, irritable/easily angered, a weird ticking/ shaking jerking motion, slurred speech, weakness, numbness/tingling in extremities and on face in shoulder area, decreased coordination, neck pain, tinnitus, slowed reaction time, inability to read a book, more impulsive with actions or spending habits, dazed appearance, change in eating patterns/binge eating more, some medications were not as effective or effective at all, diminished quality of life. Most of these have went away with the exception of confusion, short term memory, difficulty paying attention, irritable, diminished quality of life. Most of the physical symptoms he hasn't had for a bit.

But the most concerning and most long lasting symptoms of his is that he doesn't really feel any emotions anymore. Happy or sad, positive or negative, nothing. He doesn't enjoy music or movies or TV shows or nature and he very much enjoyed that before. He said it feels like his dopamine and seritonin are all out of whack and it feels like the emotion is felt in his body but it doesn't quite connect to him being able to feel the emotion in his mind or his brain. It's like it gets almost to his brain but then it gets blocked from going any further. He says it feels like he's a robot just doing the motions going to work, being social with people, but there no real connection anymore. He even has said many times that he doesn't feel anything towards me his wife anymore. That really hurts but I know he can't help it and it's not his fault.

He has been taking a few supplements to help with inflammation like magnesium, turmeric, vitamin B1, and creatine powder. He's been seeing a neuropsychologist that pretty much said he has adjustment disorder and that his apathy is a part of depression but he says he does not feel depressed. Has anyone in here experienced the same loss of emotions and did they ever come back?

Tl;dr

Husband had a concussion 5 months ago had physical and mental symptoms. Physical symptoms have pretty much went away but doesn't feel any emotions. Has anyone dealt with the same thing?

Hello. I (34F) have been on stimulant meds for my adhd for about 2 years now. I tried a few when I was a teen though. I started 2 years ago on Adderall generic and eventually changed over to Vyvanse generic. I went all the way up to 60 mg on the lis dex and still felt like it only lasted maybe 4-5 hours. And when it would hit it felt like getting hit by a truck with energy and productivity and a little jittery.

Usually whatever I was doing when it hit was what my brain wanted to do until it wore off but sometimes it would push me to get some regular work or secretary/life/adult stuff done. I don't do any vitamin c around the time I take it and I eat with it and try to get protein in. I changed my dose a few times then recently I asked my doctor to lower the dose down to 40mg. I also asked if I could do 60mg for the whole day but split it up into 2 different doses for each day. He said no that it can only be taken once every 24 hours.

I'm going through a major burnout right now and struggling pretty bad so I need to know how I ask him about adding maybe a 2nd stimulant to the lis dex for later in the day. If I take it at 8am by the time it hits 1pm I'm done for the day and that's just not good enough. I don't want him to think I'm drug seeking and I don't want to ask a ton of questions but I really need to figure out what can be added to it to make it last long enough to try to be a productive member of society for at least 8-10 hours a day.

I also am going to be getting L-tyrosine and L-theanine for supplementation to hopefully help it last longer. It just feels like my body metabolizes it super quickly. It did the same thing when I was on the XR and IR Adderall too.