u/Metalbii

My fiancé proposed in Paris! Very surprised, been with eachother 12 years. I popped a joke here and there about getting engaged over the years but we weren’t that serious about marriage. Just glad we have eachother vibes.
But lo and behold he popped the question 2 weeks ago while traveling Paris. I was so surprised about my ring, he picked it with help from his twin brother. And I think they done such a good job!

And then yesterday my cousin congratulated me and asked to see the ring. When i showed her she said “awww, it’s dainty like you”. Kinda threw me off a bit, I can’t really tell if that’s a compliment or not. And I’ve also had peeps making comments like “is that real!?” “Did HE pick that!?”

To be honest I didn’t expect an engagement to bring so many different comments and opinions. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks I’m still in love with it, but just curious What do you guys think about that comment?

EDIT TO ADD: wow! I didn’t expect the response I had. Thank you! I really do love my ring. And for someone who doesn’t really wear jewellery (being a tomboy at heart) I’m so besotted with it!

For a little context about my cousin, we do have a negative history. I didn’t really want to comment on that in the initial post because I didn’t really want it to be a bitching session as I’m so happy with the ring!! But as a lot of people are asking about her character in general…she did kinda end up with my ex for a fling (she doesn’t know I know lol but my ex messaged me after the deed to brag. Which was a month after we broke up) that was like, 14 years ago! And we worked together in a job that I got her the potion for and I ended up losing my job there while she started a new company with my boss. I’ve distanced myself from her and ended up bumping into her and that’s when I had the comment! She has a sneaky streak but is super nice to my face so I guess I felt guilty thinking she was meaning to be a bitch to me, especially as she’s family. But I think you’ve helped me make up my mind lol! Definitely jealous!

I apologise in advance for this but I just have to get it out. I’ve had this amazing opportunity, once in a life time experience land in my lap and my pcos is stopping me from embracing it and just enjoy it.

I just got engaged in Paris. And then
I recently had an invitation to Buckingham palace to meet the king. It’s to do with my business, to celebrate my accomplishments as a young entrepreneur. It’s a garden party, strict dress code.
I’m not one for dressing up, I used to enjoy it back when I was a teenager but now I find it traumatising. I avoid social events and anything that requires me to “make an effort”. I used to think it’s because I’m just a straight up Tom boy but recently I’m coming to terms with the fact it’s down to my pcos and how I don’t recognise myself anymore. I swear everytime I look in the mirror I look different. And even though I’ve cut out sugar, caffeine, dairy, alcohol, cut down the carbs to non processed ones and really put the effort in for my health. I walk every morning before work, I take supplements I do everything I’m supposed to do and I’m still rapidly fluctuating in weight. Especially my boobs. They go up and down so much I have to keep multiple bras in different sizes. And at the moment they are the largest they have ever been.

I was so desperate to feel good about this opportunity I paid a fortune for a personal stylist. She was lovely, she took me shopping and we tried a load of things on but as the day went on I noticed the panic setting in on her face because my boobs just didn’t fit in ANYTHING. I ended up finding 1 dress that fit but I HATE dresses. I wanted a suit. And even though it fits and it’s a nice dress I just feel like cancelling the whole thing because I don’t recognise myself. I don’t think it helps that most of the people around me never see me dressed up and everyone won’t stop hounding me about what am I wearing. I feel like a circus freak with how much people are making a big deal out of it I wish the ground would swallow me up.

I’ve worked so hard to get to this point in my career and pcos just seems to put a huge downer on everything. I wish I didn’t care about what I look like. And I feel like I don’t until someone points something out about my appearance. Usually pointing out changes and just being uneducated or lacking empathy. I used to be so confident, bubbly, happy and care free and now I just feel like I’ve gone in to myself. I can feel myself slowly slipping back into my disordered eating to try and get back to my past self.

Absolutely love my ring! But had a weird comment and now I’m confused