We’ve been sleep training (modified Ferber)and I it’s been 8 nights and I don’t feel like there’s been significant progress.
5 month old. Our schedule: 2/2.5/2.5/3 wake windows, 3 naps. Total sleep is about 13.5–14 hours depending on the day.
Consistent bedtime routine, same order every night (made sure bottle is 30+ before bed, no rocking etc). Bedtime lands around 7:30–8:30 depending on the day and nap lengths.
I’ve tweaked the schedule a lot trying to find the sweet spot and I think we’re close, but she is still crying a decent amount each night.
Here’s our data from the last 8 nights (put down → asleep):
• Sat: 7:34 → 8:15 (41 min)
• Sun: 7:26 → 8:08 (42 min)
• Mon: 6:46 → 7:46 (60 min)
• Tue: 8:17 → 8:50 (33 min)
• Wed: 8:21 → 8:42 (21 min)
• Thu: 8:17 → 8:19 (NO crying) …then up ALL night with 8 wakeups
• Fri: 8:39 → 8:53 (14 min, some fussing, no major crying)
• Sat: 8:25 → 8:29 (4 min) — woke back up 5 min later, cried 8:33–9:05, ended up rocking for a few min because after 8 nights my heart can’t take this anymore.
At this point should I accept failure? I know sometimes certain babies temperate just don’t do well with training? Please help.
Signed, a sad defeated mama 💔