I’ll just get right into it. My friends, let’s call them Hannah (26) and Stacey(24) , have started being very secretive towards me and not including me in plans.
For some context, we’ve been friends just under a year. I met them through work and we hit it off straight away. Very early on we started making plans to socialise outside of work.
Hannah and Stacey definitely grew a stronger bond. I’m aware that they’re hanging out outside of work, just the two of them and I’m totally ok with that. But what bothers me is they have been funny with me when I ask them what their plans are for their days off of work. I’m not doing to be included or anything, just out of curiosity and starting a general conversation.
Recently, they were talking about that they had booked the same time off work. Again just making conversation, I asked if they had anything nice planned. They both hesitated to answer, just sort of looked at each other, then back at me and said “nothing special”. I did find that unusual but I brushed it off.
Today I was scrolling on my phone when I saw on Hannah’s instagram story that Hannah and Stacey were at a Sip and Paint event. For some reason this upset me, I don’t get why they weren’t honest with me and said what they were doing. Why didn’t they just straight up say “oh yea we’re doing this”. Why so secretive?? It also hurt because the Sip and Paint they went to was the one I had suggested that we all should go to.
I’m trying to not let this bother me but I have to deal with stuff like this with previous friendships. Not being included, people being secretive. I’ve always been the one in the friend group that gets pushed to the side.
How do I stop feeling so paranoid?? Do I talk to them and tell them how I feel or is there no point??