Moderate ED Struggles - Lose erections quickly
Requesting Advice - 29M
Background:
Previous daily (sometimes more) porn user, very basic masturbate fast until finish routine. Now I have pretty much entirely cut out porn and masturbation (before I met my now-girlfriend).
I started dating my girlfriend about a year ago and I was intent to not let sexual issues impact this relationship like it has in the past, because she’s the one. It’s worked for the most part, we have an amazing bedroom with great sexual chemistry. Both of us reach climax almost every time we have sex.
That being said, I still have some moderate ED issues that affect my confidence. I have no issue getting hard with kissing, foreplay, stimulation, etc, but maintaining erections requires almost total concentration. If I get distracted and think about something else, if switching positions takes a few moments, if it takes too long to put on a condom, I can often lose most if not all of my erection.
When this happens I feel bummed out because I think I let her down, she feels bummed out because she thinks it’s her fault or she did something wrong or she isn’t good enough (not true, she’s a smoke show and amazing in bed), and it’s just overall not a good vibe for a few minutes. This results in me kind of requiring our sex to stay pretty vanilla. One or two positions, making love just long enough for her to finish and then I finish shortly after. But man, sometimes I want to fuck for hours. Sometimes I want to do weird positions around the house, which I can’t do because it requires walking around or focusing elsewhere for a moment, which always takes me out of it. She does too, she loves sex with me, and she can’t get enough of it. We could go forever, our chemistry is so good. I just want to be able to do it without that fear in my head.
Requesting advice from those that have been in a similar situation. Is this something that a low dose prescription like blue chew would help with? I wouldn’t use it every time, morning sex and pre-sleep love making don’t require it but it would be nice to have something like that to help because I don’t feel confident enough for those things right now and it would help me feel so free. Maybe over time it will help build that confidence.
I appreciate any support in advance.