u/Mental-Alfalfa-5670

Throwaway.
Early 30s, female. Just out of a long-term relationship with someone who became wealthy from a business he started and I helped him with, who didn’t want me working.. “our money,” step back from my own ambitions, etc. Supporting the man like a good woman and got the occasional luxury gifts and trips. When it ended, none of this money ‘we’ worked for actually mine (duh).

I had a business of my own I’d let tick along. Post-breakup it became my lifeline and I threw everything at it. Now seven figures and growing fast. Took low six figures last year, will take mid-six this year. Building toward an eventual exit. EU national living in the UK, not sure where I want to end up.

Where I need HENRYUK brain:

1.	How do you start thinking like someone with money when you’ve spent your adult life being told someone else would handle it/thinking it’s a group effort?

2.	SIPP vs ISA vs GIA on dividend extraction, managing the £100k taper — how aggressive on pension when I want property liquidity in \~2 years?

3.	Anyone rebuilt financially after a relationship like this? Having my own money and not trusting it is a weird headspace as I save manically due to the feeling of uncertainty. 

4.	When did you start taking exit prep seriously?