All I wanted was for him to acknowledge what he had done - the lies told and the trust broken and how he always wanted to be right and would double down on everything. It's been 2 weeks since I broke up with him and he has gone back to his previous situationship (the same crazy girl that he broke up with before he started dating me, the same that stalked us for the relationship and would send abusive messages to us both)
It has made me realise he was comfortable operating at that level - that is where he is comfortable as there are no boundaries, no standards, no one making him accountable. Their relationship isn't exclusive. That is what she happily returned to. I find it mind boggling.
I don't think he thought I would walk away as the two. previous times we'd made up within 2 days with a half assed apology from him. It was exhausting. I tried to steer him towards therapy and mentioned he might be neurodivergent - but he'd do the next stupid or disrespectful thing and I drew a hard line.
It's been 2 weeks and I was introduced to someone by a mutual friend and I see a difference - a big difference. He is a much calmer man and everyone vouches for him - compared to my ex - and that hurts because the ex was such a nice person but obviously going through some sort of trauma/ptsd. It was only 5 months but it was such a fun relationship but he had nasty habits that were a dealbreaker.
I'm attracted to this new guy but I want to make sure I'm okay mentally as I don't want to start off with him sad and thinking about the ex all the time.
I guess this is to say I'm just disappointed in him and I thought he would have handled things differently.