I’m a 43-year-old guy, diagnosed with ADHD around 2016/17.
I’ve tried a few meds over the years and ended up on Elvanse 50mg. It helps a bit, mainly with the physical side, but mentally I still feel pretty scattered. It used to help more with focus and procrastination, but over the last few years it feels like that’s worn off quite a lot.
This didn’t feel like such a big issue before kids, but since my first son was born in 2021 (we’ve now got two boys), I’ve really struggled.
I know parenting is hard for everyone, but I constantly feel on edge. Like I’m stuck in fight or flight most of the time. It doesn’t take much for me to feel overwhelmed, especially things like going out for meals, trips away, anything a bit chaotic or unpredictable. I kind of shut down.
Even on holidays it takes me a couple of days just to settle into it.
My wife is amazing and really supportive, but I feel guilty because it probably feels like she’s dealing with three kids sometimes. I hate that feeling.
I guess I’m just wondering if this is something other people experience? And if so, has anything actually helped?
At the moment it just feels like I’m not coping as well as I should be, and I don’t really know what else to try.