I’ve fallen for one of my closest friends and I really need advice on how to move on.
We’re in the same friend group and she’s already in a relationship (she was even before I caught feelings). Over time we got really close, and that closeness made my feelings stronger. I care about her a lot and she’s genuinely one of the most important people in my life.
The problem is I can’t fully distance myself because we’re in the same friend circle and I don’t want to lose the friendship either. Sometimes she makes me feel really valued and important, and those moments give me hope. Other times she treats me like I barely matter, and that completely messes with my head.
I’m also tired of waiting for her replies to my messages and overthinking why she takes so long sometimes. My mood has started depending on how much I talk to her or how she acts around me, and I hate that.
I know she’s unavailable and I don’t want to keep hurting myself, but I also don’t know how to stop caring.
Has anyone been in a situation like this? How do you move on without completely cutting someone off?