Note: Used AI to frame it better
Also im not able to add the chat pictures. Will add it in comments
So I’m married, in my 30s, and I put up one of those dumb “Ask me anything” stories on Snapchat just for fun.
Most questions were normal, and then one of my oldest friends (we’ve known each other almost 18–20 years) sends:
“Boyfriend/girlfriend name?”
I replied jokingly:
“My husband. Mera pati hi mera boyfriend hai.”
She then starts saying stuff like “Arre kuch masaledaar gossip bolo,” basically trying to make it spicy/funny.
I replied pretty casually that I’m not into extra-marital jokes or any of that, and that my husband is enough. I wasn’t angry, wasn’t lecturing—just making it clear that that kind of humor isn’t really my thing. I take my marriage seriously, and even joking about affairs/side pieces/etc just isn’t something I’m comfortable with.
Instead of just moving on, she doubled down.
Started with:
“Chill pill.”
“Ro mat behen, it’s sarcasm.”
“If married people can’t handle these questions maybe they shouldn’t put up ‘Ask me anything.’”
At that point I was already irritated—not because of the original joke, but because I felt like I’d clearly drawn a boundary and she was now mocking me for having one.
Things got heated, and later when I explained why I was annoyed, she literally came back with:
“PMSing? If that’s the case, I’ll let it go.”
And honestly… that is what really set me off.
Like… excuse me? “You’ll let it go?” Who exactly made you the authority here? And why are we jumping to PMS because I didn’t laugh at your jokes?
For context, this isn’t some random person. I’ve known her almost two decades, which honestly makes it sting more, not less.
Now she thinks I’m “too sensitive,” “misread sarcasm,” and “picked a fight for no reason.”
I’m at the point where I’m genuinely questioning whether I even want this friendship anymore, because this doesn’t feel like banter—it feels like someone repeatedly poking, then acting like I’m the problem when I finally react.
AITK for snapping… and WIBTK if I quietly ended this friendship over it?