Hi everyone!
I’ve been in no contact with someone for a little over two years now. It wasn’t something casual, they really mattered to me, and when things ended it hit hard enough that I felt like cutting all contact was the only way to actually move on.
Since then, my life has changed a lot. I’ve grown up, focused on my future, and I’m not in that same emotional place anymore. I don’t feel that pain like before, but at the same time I can’t say they’re completely irrelevant to me either.
Recently I’ve been thinking about reaching out. Not because I’m lonely or stuck, but more out of curiosity, maybe even a sense of closure.
What’s stopping me is the doubt. I don’t know if breaking no contact after this long is something healthy, or if it’s just reopening something that I already did the work to heal from. Part of me feels like enough time has passed that it wouldn’t be a step backwards, but another part thinks that if it really had a place in my life, it wouldn’t have stayed silent for two years.
I’m kind of stuck between those two thoughts.
Has anyone here reached out after years of no contact? Did it actually give you clarity, or did it just bring back things you had already moved past?
Anyways, thank you for your help!