u/Master_Garbage_4475

This isn't one of those I'm a man so my wife better listen to me situations. Yes I believe the man is the head of the household and the spiritual leader, provider, protector and many other things but it comes with a mutual respect between both husband and wives. I know my wife is better at many things and that she has certain roles that aren't mine with her being a wife/ mother. I also believe that it goes God first, then husband and wife, then children. I became Christian a little over a month ago so it's a been a huge change. My wife was all about it because she grew up Christian. I've been struggling so hard here lately because my house is just so disrespectful. Ik it's going to take time and work and I've got to be careful not to overstep or be pushy trust me I understand. The thing is that my son is super disrespectful to us as parents. He's an amazing kid but the respect he needs to show me and his mother isn't there and I've been working on it. Making him open doors for his mom and not talk to us certain ways etc. When he gets in trouble I feel like a warden. I'm the one that always has to handle it and when I do I feel like I'm put on trial by the whole house. I'm the stern angry dad when really I just want my wife to back up me. Hell get in trouble for something bad and here my conversation with him and immediately walk in and start telling him super nice things and being super nice and it feels like it's driving a wedge between me and my son/her. I understand Its her nurturing nature but at the same time her nurturing nature is a major proponent to why my son acts the way he does. He's not dumb and he knows how to use us. What makes me more upset is her undermining me in front of him and other people and trying to get me not to follow through etc. I'm so sick of the good cop bad cop stuff. She doesn't even respect me or act as she should but I know that will come with time and ik it's largely my fault for not leading the house spiritually. I'm trying to be a better man and ik that better doesn't mean everybody has to approve but it's getting to the point I feel like I'm talking to wall and like I'm the crazy one. It's exhausting and it's hard to not let it get to me and then it impacts my mood and then just adds to everything else. I'm not asking for much just a little more respect and support and so on but I can't even talk to her about it because she gets defensive and angry and it causes a fight. She doesn't see a problem and believes it's my job as a man to deal with discipline our child which I'm totally fine with but when I follow through on my words then she wants to hop in and be the savior or the nice person when really we need to be a team. Even if I'm wrong talk to me later on the side ya know? I've been praying and using my discernment as best as I can. I've been trying to be patient but I'm worried I'm gonna blow up on everyone and just dig my whole deeper but I can't actively sit her and let this continue. Any suggestions?

Most of the test seems to be either situational or a personality testing. A friend said how you answer matters significantly an example being "have you ever stolen anything before?" My friend said no but the officer said you've never taken mres from the army? ( taking mres is very common and nobody cares) It really caught my friend off guard. I've also seen people say you score higher if you pick more extreme emotions instead of trying to be neutral all the time. Ik every state and agency is different but the personality and situation questions seem to be pretty similar across the board so what tips/tricks/ or inside knowledge can you guys give me? Thank you!

From what I've read it seems to be more of a situational/personality test than your typical test. I recently got out of the military will this help my odds? What ways should I prepare? I'm not worried about the physical portion just want some insight on how the testing went for others and how they prepared.

First off ik alot of people hate the term lukewarm Christian but take it easy. I was atheist my whole life and married a Christian woman. When we first got together it bothers her tremendously that I wasn't Christian. Christianity always made me uncomfortable because I tried my whole life to feel a connection and to believe it and I never could. I recently was saved and it's impacted my life tremendously. I'm very passionate about the Lord, I love the bible and reading it, I love church, I love it all so much and I take it very seriously. I don't know how to say this without sounding harsh, I know I shouldn't feel this way and it's wrong....I know....but She doesn't read the bible, she doesn't know that much in it at all, she doesn't really pray, she doesn't really do anything but say she knows Jesus is real and she loves him. She does go to church with me but even that was a friction area because the church had to be fun and have good music and people put age which I admit is nice but not the point or priority of church. She says some of her family members are cult-like because how devout they are but it feels like an underlying jealousy. Thou aren't holier thou situation. It just feels like every aspect of her life doesn't show me she's walking with christ other than her belief in him. What makes me concerned is she spent her whole life going to church so part of me feels like her beliefs stem from how she was raised because when she started to talk about her beliefs I asked her why she believed it and she couldn't tell me why. This is my fault I know that because as a man I was supposed to be leading the household in many ways and spiritually is where I dropped the ball for a long time. Ik it's not fair of me to ask her to change immediately and I don't expect that. when somebody doesn't see a problem how do they even begin to start fixing it? Ik God will take care of me and I just need to pray and keep on keeping on but that's not my issue. My issue is that I refuse to waiver in my faith, to show mercy to sin, and to turn a blind eye to things. Nobody told me about the discernment I would get when saved and sometimes it feels like a curse haha I'm not mean or anything but I stand firm with my wife when she wants me to partake in something Ik is wrong and I tell her no. Ik my walk with God is up to me but she's making it very difficult to do Christian things (ironic because of how I used to be). I will not waiver but ik stuff going to start imploding around me and I'm just going to be that crazy religious controlling but job husband by the end of it 🙄 so aside from trusting in God and praying and what could somebody tell me what happens when I stand frim and she leaves? It that gods plan? This is hypothetical obviously but I just hear trust in God and she'll start walking with christ with you but I know there are many cases of people being left by their partner over this

So my wife is far along in her pregnancy she's at 34 weeks. She works as a nurse in a huge hospital. They refuse to give her any accommodations, they float her constantly meaning throwing her on different floors that have violet patients etc, she gets in trouble if she sits down, and so on. She asked if they could accommodate her in many ways such as light duty, more breaks , and for them to be considerate when giving her patients that are a threat to her or our baby. They told her they can't accommodate her and that there is no such thing as being light duty in nursing and that she needs to use her PTO up until birth and then she's allowed to have maternity leave but won't have PTO afterwards for any emergencies that may arise. I've done a lot of research and to me this just feels really illegal. The hospital is super short staffed and management is harsh and incompetent for those most part just trying to survive the day. Many of my wives co workers have actually talked to her and told her that they were given light duty and know many people who have. I'm just fed up with it. My wife loves being a nurse and is very passionate about it and her patients and it's a shame that she's being treated this way. Just feels like the hospitals greed. Anyways I need some insight from people of whether we should fight this or if what they're doing is legal? Preferably people who have experience with this area. Thank you. Oh I also want to add I would completely understand if it was a job that this wasn't an option to accommodate such as a security guard or construction etc.

I'm just going to summarize everything and I hope I don't butcher it. I can answer questions but im also trying to be careful talking about this I'm 29 and was saved a month ago. When I was a teenager I messed with an Ouija board for months and had a demonic encounter. I wasn't intentionally trying to do anything I got the board as a birthday present and didn't know any about them. Needless to say stuff got scary and alot of other stuff happened but I wanted to forget about it and leave it in the past. Now that I've found faith I've been thinking about that whole situation and it makes so many questions arise. Ik the occult is no joke and many people steer away from it as far possible because it can consume people I've seen it. I would like more information about what I experienced and would like to be able to talk about it but I don't know if that's wrong or playing a dangerous game etc. But I also feel like intention matters because I'm sure there has been many Catholic priests well versed in demonology. I don't have a denomination yet because I'm new to faith and trying to figure everything out but just want to know if Its okay to share experiences or research stuff? I'm not going to mess with any occult items or anything like that but she want to understand what was happening better

I was saved 3 weeks ago and it felt like a switch in me got flipped. I was reborn. I noticed IMMEADIATE changes both in myself and around me. One of these changes is the discernment. I didn't even know that was a thing until I started noticed how intense mine was. Now I'm very convicted about things and refuse to move on them. I make mistakes all the time but I'm working on them. Cussing for example. I no longer cuss on purpose and my swearing a went down substantialy but I do slip up sometimes. Ik it's okay because I know it's wrong and I'm working on it. Theres other things that aren't so clear that I feel a strong discernment about and I can't tell if it's the holy spirit or maybe I'm just being too intense? It's freaking everybody out because I was atheist and it wasn't a gradual change. I get upset when people tell me to slow down or tell me things are okay that are not. Ik this might sound silly but I almost feel as if the discernment I have now is better than the discernment of many of the devout Christians I know. This confuses me because they know so much more than I do so why are they trying to water me down? I feel a very deep calling and I feel like nobody around me understands even the people who should understand better than I do. If I told my family I was going to commit my whole life to the Lord and make It my life's work to help save people they'd think I was crazy and tell me about responsibilities and so on. Idk if I'm being stubborn or prideful because it is in fact a my way or the highway mindset that I have had here lately or if I'm doing the right things. It feels right and I've prayed about it but I just need some other opinions. Thanks