Should I marry my gf with financially problematic parents?
Hola!
So I've been going out with my gf for 1.5 yrs now. We are brown living in Canada.
We both work in tech and earn 80k, with potential of going up to 100-120 k in the next few years. The problem is that her parents are continously ask her for more and more money.
About them: they are retired living in southeast Asia and aren't that well off. That's not a problem in itself but they are naively nice and regularly give their money to people in need, and have been scammed up to 120,000 CAD with 2 ppl just last year alone.
Currently she gives them 1200 (brought down from 1500) for rent and some grocery, pocket money for her mom and roughly 200CAD for her sick aunt.
Now im personally fine with this but the problem is they keep asking her for more and more money, either for investing (yet another friend who could scam them potentially). They do not realize that she has to build her own life incl masters, house, car etc, and see her as an ATM machine. On top of that they refuse to openly talk about finances, something very common in my family.
The situation is likely not gonna change her soon despite me telling her to set boundaries etc. Question is, is this too much liability I shouldn't get in to with my life patner? Im afraid this could weigh us down, especially since I would have to take care of my parents too at one point. I. Fine with both of us contributing 1200-1500 CAd to our parents each (whoch already significantly is a big hit for buying our first home etc), but in an emergency or them always demanding kore im afraid it'll financially choke us.
Any advice?