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TW: detail mention of physical violence and near unaliving experience

*supportive comments only*

Hello,

Long ago a physical fight broke out between my brother and sister: caused by the n.

Before this, there had been tension building up where my sister was extremely angry with my mom everyday: throwing things,banging things....etc... She was ready to explode

I was in the living room and my sister was getting a bit angry at my mom. My mom had been mean and evil to her the past week and it had been making my sister really annoyed and agitated and angry.

My mom , a sensitive n, that cries, yelps, and whines.

Tried to annoy my sister.

My sister first hit her out of anger. She pushed her. And my mom started mini crying saying aw aw aw like it was hurting her. She purposlly stayed there(my mom)

And then my brother came out of no where and started to go for my sister. They got into a punching fight. They fought until they reached the living room when my brother grabbed her throat while her being pinned to the ground and starting chocking her close to her last breath. She was dying.

My mother.... :beside her the whole time looking down at her.

My part:screaming for everyone to stop.

Stopping the fight.

And maybe preventing my sister from being... well.... i guess u know.

How do I manage this.....

Do you guys have any word of advice for how to manage huge burts of part memory and emotion?

Im currently not home so i dont mind trying.

So recently, Ive been having my examinations and decided to partner with someone so that I wouldnt have to stress too much and that we could go through it together.

So I don't meet her regularly, but I do see her time to time.

She is generally mean, unthoughtful of other peoples opinions, thoughts , and critical towards their behaviour.

I thought its okay, lets go through this with her. Its not like were gonna talk about much or anything. Just the basic stuff. Her manners fluctuates like she can be actually thoughtful about things( but in a self centered way)

I learnt that....She LOVES to tell me how Im not capable at doing things but indirectly showing me she knows WAY better and she is SUPER smarter, in the end....she Doesnt even know the question herself. Doesnt know it properly, and cant even explain it.

Im not even her close friend!

And I talked to her a while back asking for explanations on some questions, and these were the 3 main things she said and did :
Youre questions was so easy!! ( I wasnt certain about it)
I told her I was upset about my question and she said: You know, about the questions I didn't know, I WOULD HAVE known if I just tried/ Completely dismissed me. ( I actually took my time to listen to her frustration of the question so that hurt)

When she gave me advice, she made me look stupid. I was telling her I wasnt sure and she said, its so easy look: and she doesnt explain it properly, straight up fakes the explanation.

Tells me its an easy question and that those are the basic things and that I was just super stupid;

THOSE ARE SOO EASY! shed point out " mine were the hard ones."

Down right trashes me. ( worst of all it was important questions and I was already down !)

I swear to god....

Anyone met similar self centered people or just general self centered ppl? How does it go? What do they do?

TW: mentioning vaguely about physical abuse.
So, for some context, I had been trying to study very hard while a lot was going on at home.
My family were being extremely abusive and physical with each other. One day after another, there was something to fight about in the house.
There was regular shouting, hitting and screaming going on everywhere.
As you can tell, it would have been very hard to study in this situation.

Having social anxiety, I was too worried to be out of the house and study somewhere else.

At some point, I grew more distant with my family because I was getting more and more bullied by my family member( I was being accused of things, made fun of, and was rude to). I was honestly turning into a crisp from all the fear building up in me from the whole environment. I decided to cut them off while still being in the same house and still trying to study.

During this time I had been taking therapy and my nparents were somehow supportive.
As I grew more distant, my golden child brother started calling them out for what I did. He said I was too absent from the family and that my 'boundaries were unhealthy and extreme' and that the therapist was 'feeding me lies'.

My brother started to convince me more about how I was behaving and how I was such an awful child; not helping around the house, not helping my mom with things and being extremely distant with my family.

He kept on nagging me until I gave up the whole Idea of studying and just presented myself as a slave. ( This is, of course, not effective)

Studying was hard and made me feel drained already, but here was my brother asking me for more for this abusive family.

Anyone with a GC with similar bs?