Gift from the Universe: He Failed to Hide the C0ndom
I've only been married about a year and a half, together about 3.5 years total. This past year has been rough. Caretaking for a family member, work stress, etc. And after communicating and failing to see change for a couple of my husband's behaviors (staying out drinking, communications with a suss female coworker), I did start to withdraw inward for the past 6+ months. I didn't know how to address the issues again since the first time it didn't work, and frankly didn't have the energy. I wasn't withholding, I wasn't mean. I just established some emotional distance to take care of myself, and he noticed.
He only very very recently sat me down to have a real talk about it. And it was a good talk, or so I thought. I felt hopeful, like he'd broken me out of my shell again and might genuinely make the needed changes.
But only a week later, I came home from work (he wasn't home yet) and I found a used, fresh c0ndom right in front of the living room couch.
confronted him about it when he got home, and it was instantly clear by his expression that he was guilty. He denied it for hours, however, before finally confessing he got drunk and screwed a random girl in her car that he met at a pizza place/dive bar.
We are getting a divorce.
And I'm choosing to look at this as the universe looking out for me. The cheating happened after he got off work (he works nights) on a Tuesday, the c0ndom was somehow still on his person and fell off when he got home, he didn't see it all day Wednesday while home alone (I didn't see it either somehow when I got home Wednesday night), and it wasn't until I came home Thursday when he wasn't there that I saw it and had time to process/plan what I was going to do.
If that's not some cosmic intervention, I don't know what is.