Not sure if this is more of a question or rant, but I’ve had my sisters 2 oldest kids - going on 2 years. I’ve had the youngest 3 for almost a year now, also. Mom was incarcerated and attended a rehab program during her incarceration, since getting out (approx. 5 months ago, now) she has remained clean from her DOC. After taking the youngest 3, I lost everything. My career id been at for 7 years and worked my way into upper management, my HOME, even got my car repoed .. I mean I lost everything. I was able to get my car back, and find another place to live after the eviction which allowed me to keep the children. Had I not had the children, I would’ve just moved back into my grandmas with my daughter.
Anywho- CPS asked if I’d be open to letting bio mom live with me, when I moved. I let the supervisor know that I would rather not have to, but with an eviction on my record now- I would be open to it if I had to- aka didn’t get approved anywhere on my own. They were doing home studies and looking for alternative placement arrangements at this time, mind you. So I was frantic and trying to find somewhere ASAP. A place I applied to had 3 and 4 bedroom townhomes. A 3 bedroom came available and I took it, so CPS would chill out and stop trying to move the kids. Obviously this isn’t the most ideal with 6 kids + myself, but it is what it is. CPS KEEPS bringing up my sister (bio mom) moving in and I let them know that I wasn’t sure about it and I’m in the process of getting foster certified (Ohio- I get no help financially with the kids without it) and her living here would be an issue. I thought the caseworker understood, but when I saw my sister a couple days later she said the caseworker told her “her supervisor is getting impatient” like OK???! yall pay for somewhere for her to live then ??? but they want me to supervise, of course. Is this normal? It blows my mind that they would even ask someone that’s already accommodating 5 extra children, to now move an adult into their home. I’m diagnosed ocd and I’m so very particular about everything, not in a “obsessively clean” way, just that things have to be a certain way. This is already difficult with 5 kids that I’m still asking / telling to do the same things I’ve been telling them every single day for over a year.. I don’t have the patience to deal with an adult creating extra messes , etc. How should I navigate this?
I was under the impression my sister understood that she wasn’t moving in. But she text me yesterday saying she’s considering quitting her job to move in and wants to use my car to DoorDash, she doesn’t have a license either .