u/LunaBananaGoats

Now I know that no one else will be seeing my underwear at work, but I’m worried about two things: underwear lines and saggy boobs.

I have two kids, 12 months apart, and naturally that did a number on my body. I’m going back to work soon after leave with baby #2 and I have a decent wardrobe that fits (albeit not the most flattering to my tummy), but with the extra and stretched out skin on my stomach, most of my underwear keeps rolling down at the band which then causes it to bunch up in the back too and create underwear lines.

I’ve only been using cheap no-show underwear from Amazon for the last couple of years but it’s not cutting it now. I don’t even know what other underwear won’t leave lines.

In the boob department, I didn’t breastfeed so nursing/pumping isn’t a concern, but they just don’t look anywhere near as good as they did pre-pregnancy. I loathe underwire and haven’t worn it in years, but my low support bras just don’t look good in anything besides a T-shirt.

I’m a therapist and have a good amount of range in what I wear and just want to look put together when I go back to work.

Budget is limited, but I need help. Please send all your recommendations.

I have a close friend who is also a therapist. We use Marco Polo to talk on a near daily basis and she is probably the person I talk to most outside my husband. She calls our conversations her verbal journal. But I’m struggling. She uses a lot of therapy language when we talk and things become exhausting if I say something she doesn’t like. She becomes rather mean and accusatory but if I ever say “hey this comment hurt my feelings” then she says things like “I’m sorry you misunderstood my intentions” and is really cold.

I have no idea how much of this struggle is related to her being a therapist, but I don’t have these exhausting repair conversations with anyone else. Even my marriage is easier. I feel like she wants the emotional energy I give to my clients but also doesn’t want me to say anything therapeutic like but also not the directness I use with friends but needs me to give substantial feedback and get it exactly right or I’m attacking her… I’m tired y’all.

I have two girls, a year apart, and my youngest is only about six weeks old but we’re done having kids (my husband’s vasectomy was this week) so my mind is on to the next thing. I’ve known I want to homeschool after substitute teaching in the same school district I grew up in and seeing the changes. Even talked with my second grade teacher about how different it is when I subbed at her school.

I’m a bit type A, love a good plan and organizing information. I read this sub fairly often but a lot of it doesn’t apply to me yet.

Is there anything you’d recommend to me now? Learning about certain curricula? Habits I build within my family to later support homeschooling?