The details are a bit fuzzy because he's refusing to be fully honest with us, but as far as I know he was using payday loans a couple of months ago. A few days ago, he said he cannot pay rent this month bc he's in huge debt and needs to take care of it. Today he was crying and begging my mom to help him bc he's desperate.
He was asking her either her or me give him a chunk of our savings (6k total to pay off the debt) or for her to take a loan at the bank (I'm assuming he's credit is ruined) and pay the debt with that. The thing is... he has never been fully honest about this stuff; we have been asking countless of times what the hell is he doing with the money in the first place. Just a few years ago, I discovered he was having an affair with a mistress from our homecountry (it has been going on for years) and our main theory is that he's sending money to the mistress.
He was telling me my mom that if we help him he would give us full access to his bank accounts, credit cards and manage all of it. That he would pay her with interest and try to make things right. I'm so confused and shocked that I don't know what to do. I was just thinking on moving out but I feel such a shitty person. I thought on giving him the money but cutting all relationship with him but it's too much money. Any advice or opinions are welcomed. I hope I don't break any rules with this post, I just want some advice or opinions if his financial situation right now
Edit: I forgot to add that he was thinking on pawning their car is we didn't help him but some reason he couldn't find the car legal papers