Privacy-friendly VPS host for self-hosted WireGuard relay? (real-world experiences wanted)
I'm setting up a WireGuard VPN as a relay between my devices and my home network (homelab access, not exit-node browsing). Trying to pick a host and would value real-world experience over marketing.
Why I'm not using a mainstream provider: Hetzner asked for ID + selfie at signup, which I'm not willing to provide for a €4/month VPS. Looking for hosts that don't require that.
Shortlist so far:
- Njalla — most-recommended for privacy, but expensive (~€15/mo) and I've read mixed things about their network reputation
- 1984 Hosting — Iceland, lighter KYC, seems like a balance
- BuyVM — cheap, accepts Monero, US-based
Questions for anyone with direct experience:
- Network reputation — how often do the IPs get blocklisted by services like Google, Cloudflare, streaming sites? Matters because a relay that gets captcha'd constantly is annoying
- Abuse handling — if someone else on the IP range does something, do they nuke your VM or work with you?
- Anyone left one of these for another? Why?
Not looking for "just use Mullvad" answers — I specifically want a server I control to terminate the tunnel at, not a commercial VPN.
Thanks for any input.