u/LilLemonLady223

Are they any facts or information that made you feel better?

I had a C-section June 2024 due to breech, I never went into labour on my own. I am due my next baby November 2026. So it was a 21 month gap from pregnancy to pregnancy and it’ll be a 29 month gap from birth to birth

I really want to try for a VBAC this time round but the fear of death has me reconsidering and I’m really disappointed with this feeling.

Part of it stems from me being scared to death of leaving my son and husband behind.

I know the risk is 1% but I read a post on here where a doctor said to a patient the risk was actually 3-4%

Any advice if you felt this way? Any fact sheets or information that calmed your nerves?

Hello all,

I’m going to cut straight to the point.

I have been with my partner now for 10 years, we have one child together who is 2.
I am a stay at home mom as we both decided we do not want our child to be in nursery/daycare.

I have one friend, we have been best friends for 15 years, she lives 2 hours away from me. Before having kids we’d see each other once a month

Since I had a child, we see each other twice a year maybe.

I am currently pregnant again, and my partner has dropped a bomb on me that “once we have two kids you will no longer be going to your friends, you cannot be leaving 2 kids here with me” I stay at my friends for 2 nights but I am willing to drop this to 1 night to him it doesn’t matter it’s still a no

Trust me I know how it sounds, but there is NO backing down with him, this is the only social thing I ever do, i have no other friends so I stay in.

I am 100% a stay at home mom, do 100% with my toddler, do 100% of all night wakings and will plan to do 100% of all night wakings with this one. I actively encourage my partner to go out and do things as I believe it’s important, he goes to golf roughly 2 times a week (18 holes)

He is also planning on going on a stag do (when second baby is born) this stag do will be a week in a different country (but this is the only ever overnight thing he does)

Part of me wants to say ‘well if I can’t go see my friend you can’t be going to the stag do, because if it’s not okay to leave 2 kids with you, it can’t be okay to leave 2 kids with you’ but I know that he will just say ‘okay’ or I will back down as I have no actual issue with him going.

I’m so heartbroken that my friendship maybe over, that’ll leave me with no friends.

My friend doesn’t drive and has a very low paid job and lives in an expensive area to be close to her family, so coming to me is not really an option, other than day trips (we also have no space for her here to stay over) but also, I just kind of enjoyed going to hers to have that time to myself.

How do I get him to see that there’s nothing wrong with this? He doesn’t listen to me when I say that it’s important to me and he doesn’t really care that the friendship will be over effectively

Or am I actually the delusional one and he’s right?

Hi all

I went for my 12 week scan yesterday at 13 weeks.

All went well but due to babies position they couldn’t get the NT measurement, sonographer said he saw everything and it looked normal but he just couldn’t get the actual measurement

I’m going back in 2 weeks for the QUAD blood test (a less accurate blood test)

What would you do in this situation? I’ve tried looking for a NIPT test near me (Birmingham) and I can’t find anything cheaper than £250 and we just can’t afford to spend that on a test atm.

What would you do in my situation?