u/LeftSprinkles9802

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So, I’m a Taurus (may) F. I’ve been having strong feelings for this cancerian guy (July born) for close to 3 yrs now. He’s never explicitly said he loves me. In fact he said that, “maybe sometimes the people you love or feel for, may not necessarily like you at the same intensity!”

But:
In the initial years (like year one of knowing each other)

1. He’s always would keep looking at me whenever I’d visit his workplace.
2. we’d have phone calls that would span over 2 hours.
3. we’d quite regularly keep in touch. Meet almost everyday.
4. If I wouldn’t text him for a week he’d ping with some reason or excuse to start conversations or send me a meme to get my reaction.
5. whenever I’d be low he’d show me some signs of him caring.

Then came long distance, geographically distant, different countries and continents.

1. first year I’d be the one making calls
2. second year, after June, the replies to my messages stopped. He wouldn’t pick or return my calls. Would keep me on seen. Except for times when I’d share something truly vulnerable or sad etc.
3. third year which is this year we finally met (after 2.5 yrs) as I visited the country he lives in. But he did not go out of his way or change his schedule to ‘spend time with me’ <I agree his workload has quadrupled>
4. he did however return my calls, text back (very monosyllabic but nothing extra)
5. we finally caught up for dinner but basic catch up where I shared my vulnerabilities my fears etc. We didn’t talk anything regarding us. Post dinner he showed me his phone and said how he has no time for anything else, how much he is overworked which is why he doesn’t keep in touch or replies to my messages without even me mentioning about this.

I met him on the last day before flying out for lunch.

1. I could see that he made note of my vulnerabilities and shared plans of how I should move back but he did not mention anything about us.

2. In some conversation he mentioned about a ‘really old conversation we had’ and said - ‘don’t you remember the old chats or have you forgotten?’

3. We joked about seeing each other and getting married in future or dating. I joked but he did not disagree or contradict or say no.

4 I noticed him noticing me, making sure I’m never hungry, always foot the bill, and when we hugged I could feel it wasn’t just a ‘bye hug’.

Back to long distance and again I’m on seen: he only replies to ‘important and serious’ messages.

Now the challenges:

1. He has a business partner (female) who he says he’s not seeing but I saw her put a DP once where she was bonding his hand.

2. Recently he was at an event and 2 of my closest friends like best friends saw him having dinner with a ‘girl’ and he wasn’t very comfortable to see my friends.

Now after hearing this I don’t know what should I do.
I really don’t know. I’m getting strong gut feelings and intuition of whether this is real or is it not.

He did say many times - good things take time, be patient and I’ve been nothing but that.

Please guys, help me here.

So, I’m a Taurus (may) F. I’ve been having strong feelings for this cancerian guy (July born) for close to 3 yrs now. He’s never explicitly said he loves me. In fact he said that, “maybe sometimes the people you love or feel for, may not necessarily like you at the same intensity!”

But:
In the initial years (like year one of knowing each other)

1. He’s always would keep looking at me whenever I’d visit his workplace.
2. we’d have phone calls that would span over 2 hours.
3. we’d quite regularly keep in touch. Meet almost everyday.
4. If I wouldn’t text him for a week he’d ping with some reason or excuse to start conversations or send me a meme to get my reaction.
5. whenever I’d be low he’d show me some signs of him caring.

Then came long distance, geographically distant, different countries and continents.

1. first year I’d be the one making calls
2. second year, after June, the replies to my messages stopped. He wouldn’t pick or return my calls. Would keep me on seen. Except for times when I’d share something truly vulnerable or sad etc.
3. third year which is this year we finally met (after 2.5 yrs) as I visited the country he lives in. But he did not go out of his way or change his schedule to ‘spend time with me’ <I agree his workload has quadrupled>
4. he did however return my calls, text back (very monosyllabic but nothing extra)
5. we finally caught up for dinner but basic catch up where I shared my vulnerabilities my fears etc. We didn’t talk anything regarding us. Post dinner he showed me his phone and said how he has no time for anything else, how much he is overworked which is why he doesn’t keep in touch or replies to my messages without even me mentioning about this.

I met him on the last day before flying out for lunch.

1. I could see that he made note of my vulnerabilities and shared plans of how I should move back but he did not mention anything about us.

2. In some conversation he mentioned about a ‘really old conversation we had’ and said - ‘don’t you remember the old chats or have you forgotten?’

3. We joked about seeing each other and getting married in future or dating. I joked but he did not disagree or contradict or say no.

4 I noticed him noticing me, making sure I’m never hungry, always foot the bill, and when we hugged I could feel it wasn’t just a ‘bye hug’.

Back to long distance and again I’m on seen: he only replies to ‘important and serious’ messages.

Now the challenges:

1. He has a business partner (female) who he says he’s not seeing but I saw her put a DP once where she was bonding his hand.

2. Recently he was at an event and 2 of my closest friends like best friends saw him having dinner with a ‘girl’ and he wasn’t very comfortable to see my friends.

Now after hearing this I don’t know what should I do.
I really don’t know. I’m getting strong gut feelings and intuition of whether this is real or is it not.

He did say many times - good things take time, be patient and I’ve been nothing but that.

Please guys, help me here.