Getting frustrated with seeking validation
Dating a girl and i admit i have some anxious attachment style. Before i date people, i am ok with being alone or with my male friends. Most if not all my friends are male and i do not feel the need to seek any validation from opposite sex etc.
Something i noticed is when i start talking with the opposite sex whom shares interest in each other or above level of commitment, my urge to seek for validation from the opposite sex is higher and asking for friends companionship gets more whenever i feel like the other party is starting to slow down on our connection for example not texting consistently the way i want.
Does this happen to other people too? And how do i stop feeling this way? It makes me feel like a horrible person because personally i dislike these kind of behaviour in general but it is happening to me.