u/Lazydawg-Melvin12345

My son has been going through some conflict at school with different kids. He happens to open up to me about it. He can have a particular personality and be difficult at times. Sometimes I can’t tell if it’s the kids that start the bullying or if it’s something my son isn’t reading. Anyways, today my husband took him to a dessert store because he was looking for a particular dessert. When they got there my husband told my son to ask the lady at the front if they had that dessert. My son was in a mood and didn’t want to ask. He said he was shy. But he is old enough to be able to ask (He’s almost 11). My husband got upset and said never mind then we won’t get it if you can’t ask. On the way out he told my son “no wonder why you get bullied at school”. Is this an appropriate response from a dad? I am so upset that he said this and my husband shows no remorse and said he would say the same thing again if under the same circumstances. I just can’t see how this is right. Am I missing something here?