TL;DR: Was in a 3-year LDR, thought everything was fine. She became distant, then broke up saying “no emotional connection.” Later found out she’d been cheating for months while still talking to me daily. Feeling betrayed and struggling to move on.
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I (25M) was in a relationship with my ex (22F) for almost 3 years, mostly long distance since she studies abroad.
Things were genuinely good for a long time. We used to talk every day, videocall constantly, support each other, exchange gifts, and our families even knew each other. I trusted her completely.
But from around March, something felt off. She became distant and stopped opening up. I kept asking what was wrong, but she always said it was just issues with friends.
On my birthday (April 21), she just sent a simple wish—very unlike her. It hurt, but I ignored it.
A few days later, I brought it up again, saying I felt something was wrong and wanted to fix things. She avoided it again. Then we finally had a call, and she broke up with me, saying:
“There is no emotional connection like before, we can’t continue.”
I was shocked. I kept asking what went wrong and blamed myself after the call, trying to figure out what I could’ve done better.
That same night, I even thought of calling her again and begging her to stay.
But an hour later, I found out the real reason from one of her friends:
She had been cheating on me for the past few months with another guy at her hostel.
This completely broke me.
We were literally videocalling every day, and she still managed to hide this. It wasn’t even a one-time thing—it happened multiple times.
What hurt even more was finding out that her mom knew about it and supported her. I had a lot of respect for her family, so this really shook me.
At the end of it all, I hoped I’d at least get honest closure—but all I got was fake tears and a goodbye.
Now I just feel Angry, Betrayed And honestly, a bit stupid for not seeing it earlier.
I keep thinking how someone who seemed so innocent and genuine could do something like this.
I even have around 4000 pictures of her on my phone, and barely any of myself. That hit me hard.
Right now, I feel lost. Like I’m still processing and none of this feels real.
What’s bothering me the most is:
How do you deal with the feeling that someone hurt you so deeply and just moved on like nothing happened?
And how do you trust someone again after something like this?
Any advice from people who’ve gone through something similar would really help.
PS-
I used Chatgbt to structure this, my initial passage was an emotional mess.