u/Large_Leader4848

My baby is 4 months old. I really want to sleep train because cosleeping is not working for us anymore. I tried a few days ago but felt so guilty. I want to do what’s best for her and help her get better sleep but I have no idea what I’m doing. I feel like I need to have her day time sleep perfect before I do sleep training but I can’t figure out how.

She can only stay awake 1.5 hours at a time happily sometimes up to 3 if we are out and about but then when it’s time to get her to nap she’s crying bad. I have been using the Napper app to help me track her sleep so I can find a pattern. Her average wake windows are 1.5/.1.5/1.75/3. I feel like the last wake window is way too long because she cry’s so much at bedtime almost every night.

How am I supposed to know when the wake window is too long or too short? How am I supposed to get her to nap for long enough so that her wake windows and nap times work right so that she can have the same bedtime every night?

I need her to wake up at 6:30am but sometimes she doesn’t want to wake up then and is crying so much that she just nurses to sleep. She will only do contact naps for me but for other people she will nap not while being held. I try everyday to set her down while she’s asleep during a nap but within two minutes she’s awake crying.

Please give me all the advice. Sincerely a young mom who feels like a failure.

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u/Large_Leader4848 — 10 days ago

My baby is 4 months old. From almost the first day home I have been cosleeping out of necessity. It had been so beautiful but now it’s beginning to feel like a prison. She used to nurse to sleep then pop off after about 20 minutes and give me 2-5 hours till she needed help going back to sleep.
But this past month or so has been so difficult. She needs much more help going to sleep and still most nights she cries until she is asleep. She will only stay asleep if I am cuddling her. I have no time to myself. I cannot do things for my family. I don’t know how to stop
How do I transition from cosleeping to her sleeping in her crib? I honestly don’t know how people set down their baby after they are asleep. I NEED HELP!

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u/Large_Leader4848 — 15 days ago