u/Laona31

I think I just need a little support after an experience I had on another subreddit ❤️

I made a post on a subreddit asking for advice about upcoming vacations with vegan friends, because I personally can’t eat a lot of legumes due to digestive issues, so was it offensive to bring non vegan food. The post itself wasn’t supposed to be about IBS or my health in general but it became the main topic.

A lot of people were kind and genuinely helpful, and I appreciate that. But some comments became really judgmental once digestive health got brought up.

Some people kept insisting that I should “just tell my friends” about my condition, that it was somehow my fault and childish for not communicating openly about it. And one comment in particular really hurt me, someone said something along the lines of: “OP is scared to tell her friends chickpeas make her fart.”

That comment honestly upset me a lot because it completely reduced something very painful and humiliating to a joke.

People really underestimate how psychologically difficult these conditions can be. Digestive and pelvic floor issues (I also have the sexy condition that is anismus and hypersensitivity rather than a "pure" IBS I think, but relate IBS C issues due to the pain linked to many food as it makes things worse so feel part of the happy family) can come with a huge amount of shame, embarrassment, anxiety, and fear of being perceived differently. That’s why I keep it private, even from close friends. Not because I’m trying to be difficult or dishonest.

I almost regret posting at all because I feel incredibly exposed now.

Have other people here had similar experiences with IBS or other very personal health conditions online? Do you think people should always be fully transparent with friends about these things, or is it understandable to keep some health issues private?

SOLVED!

Hi everyone,

I’ve been trying to find a song for years and I’m hoping someone here might recognise it.

Here’s everything I remember (some details may be slightly fuzzy):

- It’s a female solo singer

- The song is in English

- Released as a single in I believe the late 1990s or very early 2000s. Maybe before. I know we were listening to it in maybe 2000 or 2001. So may be even before. It was a CD.

- not a very famous mainstream hit

- genre is pop (mid-tempo, not fast, not slow)

- I remember the voice was sensual

- the intro starts with a bell “gong-like” melody and this melody repeats in the chorus. This melody is a bit the main part of the song, it's energetic and melodic. You can hear it here, sorry my voice is awful I did my best https://vocaroo.com/1cV9TBSaiMr3

- the cover of the single was goldish brownish, and there was a woman silhouette on it, you can't see her face

The artist was not a major global pop star (more like a one-hit or lesser-known artist).

I know this is very specific, but I’ve been stuck on this for a long time. This is something my mother was playing when I was little and I cannot find it anymore when I go at my father's I think he threw many things away. And can't ask her cause she's dead, yay.

I hope you can help me find it thanks in advance for your help

À chaque fois je me fais avoir !

Nombreuses sont les marques qui pratiquent ça, on va sur leur site, on trouve un super article, et bam, carte cadeau inutilisable, ce que l'on apprend pile au dernier moment, après avoir cherché un moment ce qui nous convenait le mieux.

C'est très trompeur, cela devrait à mon sens être davantage mis en évidence. C'est une perte de temps et une déception.

Et franchement ça donne plus envie d'offrir de carte cadeau...