My 7mo has been able to fall asleep independently for naps and at bedtime for around 2 months now after following Ferber . However when she wakes overnight she is seemingly unable to self soothe AT ALL.
She is EBF and we try to follow 5/3/3 however she’s often waking 3-4 hours after going down for the night. Any attempt at getting her back to sleep (back pats, cuddles, shushing etc) fail and seem to make her more angry if anything. We try for up to 2 hours but the only thing that ever helps is boob.
However once she has fed to sleep shes often not able to link subsequent sleep cycles meaning I’m sometimes waking up 8 times a night which is really taking its toll on me.
Her current schedule is wake up 7:30, wake windows of 3/3-3.5/4, and bed 8:30. She gets around 1.5-2 hours of day sleep, and 9- 10 hours at night due to the frequent wakings.
Is there a reason she can’t self soothe at night? Or tweaks to our schedule that would help?
TIA