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I'm new to taoism. And my Western background might cloud my understanding of filial piety as the concept simply does not exist in my culture the same way it exists in for example China.

How does taoism regard filial piety?

I do understand that it says it should be natural rather than forced (=confucian rules as a symptom of the loss of dao).

But what if the family is deeply divided? If the structure is broken? If the normally natural urge to deeply care about family life is absent?

What should one do?

Confucianism would likely say perform your duty irregardless of the situation.

And Taoism? The wise should do things without expecting anything in return, yea. But still...

Even generally; what does caring about/being in harmony with one's family entail in a taoist way? Abiding to your parents will? Living with your parents when they’re old? I know it's about naturalness... But I still don't really understand it.

Thank you for your replies!

I really like raw (sheng) pu erh especially when it has this slight astringency (but not too much!) and a bit of a citrusy taste. I also really like some green teas (especially shincha) which show this kind of citrusy flavor.

However I once had a pu erh with that taste and I cannot seem to find it again...

If you have any specific teas (on any websites) you could recommend, I'd appreciate it!

Basically I'm just looking for a tea with a citrusy taste.

If you don’t have any direct recommendations maybe some things I could look for? Type of tea(?), region(?), harvest season(?), etc...

Thank you so much!

I'm new to Taoism in general, so my understanding is very limited... please bare with me:)

Forcing my will/desire is not to be aligned with the tao, right?

Suppressing my will/desire is likely also not to be aligned with the tao.

So, my thought is: Having inclinations towards something; following them but not pushing too hard, is this the way?

As in being aware of your ego and the things it wants but instead of suppressing everything, rather following it in a way that is not focused on actually achieving it?

Example 1: I feel like I want to bake bread so I go to the supermarket and buy dough. The supermarket doesn't have dough. Instead of being frustrated and driving to another supermarket to buy dough I simply accept it without frustration and then follow another inclination without being focused on the outcome?

Example 2: I feel like I want to move to country Y. I apply for a visa and it gets rejected. Instead of feeling deeply upset and trying to force my will somehow, I accept it and move on with life...

Example 3:... you get the gist(?)

How mistaken am I?:)