u/L6ONATIC

reddit i need your help. i lashed out at my friend yesterday because there’s a thing she consistently keeps bringing up which is me leaving her out when another friend of mine comes to school. it started a while ago when i got closer with another girl from our class, until then it was mainly just me and her. i’ve noticed over time that when i talk to the other friend, even if for a little bit, she closes up and stops talking to me for the rest of the day although i still try to interact with her. when she confronted me about it for the 5th time i told her what i always did which was reassuring her that she’s still a very good friend of mine and i still view and talk to her the same while asking what actions can i take to make her feel better in such situation because i truly don’t know what else there is i can do. she replied by saying that i’m only focusing on my side and not hers and that i don’t understand how she feels, which made me upset, hence why i lashed out. i still tried to keep my cool and asked her again what i can do to make her feel better and i’ve gotten no response to that since, it’s like she suddenly doesn’t want to deal with it anymore which upsets me even more because she brought this up in the first place. initially she said she just wanted to tell me how she feels but what’s the point if you don’t want to see me take action and actually make you feel better? she’s been on and on about this so much that i’m scared to even interact with my other friend so she doesn’t feel left out. oh and when i reassured her she’s the closest friend i have in class (which is true and she knows it) she said it’s not about that because she has a lot of friends so like…what are you on about? she also says she’s not jealous. why are you trying to make yourself the better and more popular person now when it has nothing to do with the conversation? this feels like such a middle school girl issue that i just don’t have the energy to deal with right now so i’ll just wait until she brings it up again lol. i just need to know if i’m the asshole in this or not