u/KrombopulosKyle2

I made a post a couple weeks ago about our then 12.5 month old screaming hysterically during the night for hours and at bedtime, and we are still going through it. She is so happy and fun during the day and nighttime turns into hell.

She will scream for literal hours. We are trying to re-sleep train doing the ferber method, which is what we did at about 4-5 months, but it's not working. Nothing is working. I have no idea if it's separation anxiety, daycare, overtired, undertired, or a combo of many.

Her bedtime is 7:30 and we get her up at 7am, and now with daycare she naps from 12 to about 2pm. Usually getting somewhere between 13 and 14 hours of total sleep. Obviously less now with the screaming at night. We even tried crying it out but it does not work. She will go up and down between screaming and fake outs for 2 hours until we either rock her and feed her a bottle or just get lucky.

Please, if anyone has any advice, we are absolutely losing it. Its been 3 weeks of this and we are so tired and so lost.

Last night was the 9th night in a row that our 12 month old woke up screaming hysterically and is inconsolable. The first few nights she would go down after about 2 hours of screaming and then wake up at her normal time, the last few nights it's been every 2 hours she wakes up and stands in the crib and screams and will not calm down until we pick her up. It's not boiled over into her nap, and she will wake up about 30 minutes into the nap screaming, but sometimes we can get her back down.

The nights are brutal. Last night was the worst night she's had. Bed at normal time (~7:15pm) but she was very upset during the routine which is unusual, and then woke up screaming at 9pm. My wife was able to get her back down after about 45 minutes of holding and rocking, and then she got up screaming at midnight and was inconsolable. I would pick her up and calm her down, get her relaxed, and as soon as I stood up she would start to scream again. Then if she did seem to fall asleep in my arms she would scream and stand up right when we got her in the crib. She finally ended up going down after about 2 hours when I decided to just sleep on the floor next to the crib, and that took about 30 minutes. She then woke up at 6am screaming, which is an hour before normal wakeup time.

For the previous about 6-7 weeks she has been sleeping through the night completely, and she is night-weened. About 5ish weeks ago we transitioned to 1 nap after she was fighting the 2nd nap heavily. We would maybe get 2 naps 3 days week and then finally just switched totally to 1. She started daycare on 4/21 and they have been trying to get her onto their 1 nap schedule (12 ish to 2 ish), and we have been trying to do the same. Originally her 1 nap schedule was from wake at 7am, nap at 11am until 1pm, then bedtime at 7:30 which has been working fine, and the new daycare schedule hasn't been to disruptive. Her total daytime sleep is generally about 13.5 hours. 11.5 hours overnight and 2hrs capped at naps.

We are at a complete loss of what to do. We sleep trained using the Ferber method at about 5 months, so naturally we are trying that again, but at this point it's not coming close to working. Crying it out doesn't work either because she can go 2 hours without stopping and I just can't let her scream like that for so long. We are beyond exhausted because she hasn't been the most amazing sleeper, except those glorious 6-7 weeks leading up to this regression. What do we do? Do we need to sleep train again? We are worried about creating bad habits and we don't want to co-sleep. Any tips are really appreciated, thank you.