Why don’t I want sex with bf anymore?
We’re early 20s, been together for about 2 years.
He’s my first relationship, I’m not his. He’s the only man I’ve ever had good sex with and the only one to make me orgasm.
We used to have sex a lot. Multiple times a day and we’d see each other 5/6 times a week too. I will say that he has always had a much higher libido. In the past there were times I’d go along with it to please him (I still enjoyed it though don’t get me wrong, it’s just that the beginning of if I wouldn’t fully be turned on yet but then as we kept going I would get more aroused).
The issue Im having as of last year/ a few months ago is I’ve gotten too relaxed? I don’t really crave sex anymore? He does turn me on and I’m really attracted to him but I don’t really feel that need anymore? I’m not sure how to describe it.
We go on cute dates that I enjoy and spend non sexual time together just holding each other, showering together, etc. And in my head I think about maybe we should be having sex after some of these moments but my body just doesn’t get into it?
He has to physically be inside of me for my body to get the memo like oh maybe I do want to have sex with him. And I’ve never fully told him any of this but he can definitely pick up on it. He’s also always been attentive to me sexually; he does foreplay whether that’s just rubbing my sensually, kissing my body, giving me oral for a while, fingering, etc. he takes his time trying to please me. And it does feel good. But even then sometimes I don’t want sex.
Honestly I don’t think we’ve done anything in 2 weeks. At the rate I’m going I probably could last forever.
But I do ocasional masturbate but even then it’s very rare like once every month.
I don’t feel stressed. I don’t know what’s wrong with me. But I really want to change and fix the issue. I want my bf to feel desired and I want to truly fully desire him.
I do want to mention I’m on birth control and lexapro (antidepressants) but I’ve been on them the entire time we’ve been together.