It’s hard
Hey all, I have been struggling a bit lately. We are in the phase of life where my son who is 17 will be 18 in September is coming up on his senior year. While he is high functioning to a degree, he does worry me for the future. I’m struggling bc he’s smart as a whip, he has a job, never been in trouble once. But… i feel horrible saying this my husband and I are exhausted.
My husband came into his life when he was 7 and has been through it all with us. His dad doesn’t offer much in the way of having him for his normal visitation, or really any help at all. He decided that he didn’t want to help with driving him to work when he had him so he just stopped the visits. Fine. So, we have my son pretty much all of the time. His dad decided he didn’t want to be financially obligated as well, which that’s another story. So as I said my husband has helped with the financial side over the years. There is no connection between the two. I mean, I barely have a connection with my son. He doesn’t like to be hugged or engage unless you make him.
If you read this far THANK YOU! I guess I just needed somewhere to unload this without judgement. Lately, you can definitely feel the tension from my husband with my son. Again, I know how I feel and I’m sure it’s very tough for him. I’m just sad, I have no clue where the next steps are. College, yes but he will be at home. He can’t drive, which again more stress on me. I’ve been trying to help him, but the reality is I really don’t see it being possible. Maybe in his 20’s? I’m not even sure where he could go for college. We aren’t in a big city that offers public transportation. We are about 30 minutes from the downtown area that houses a lot of colleges. I guess is there anyone out there in my shoes? Blended family, spouse mentally exhausted as am I. Feeling the strain on your marriage. What happened next? How did you cope? I know my husband regrets being involved with me, but never would say so. He’s basically said he’s just been telling himself that he’s made it this far. That hurts, but I get it.
I appreciate you reading and any thoughts💚